Signs of Intelligent Life

Guys Who Got It!

Yep - letters from men who have more than a few braincells to rub together, and aren't threatened by strong, self-sufficient women who speak their minds....

Date: Tue, 23 Sep 2008
From: Timothy Hoagland
Subject: Brilliant.

I'm a man and I thought your site was brilliant.I've always hated the fact that women were turned into little sex objects who's heads were full of air.I needed a women who could match me in intellect and aggressiveness,strong-willed and stubborn.Your site seeks to make all women equal to men.It seems you promote equality between the sexes and being one or the other doesn't make you any better or worse.I think that's great,I really do.Your not a bunch of man hating women .Your realize that everythings 50/50 .Sometimes you'll find stupid ,ignorant women,same as men. I appreciate your site and what it's doing.Thanks.

From: "ddog2"
Subject: Hey H.B's
Date: Thu, 26 Sep 2002 00:33:08 -0500

Just stumbled upon your site. Lot of humor when some heartless bitches get together. You ought to put together a show. It struck funny me that I agreed with so much of your diatribe being that I am male. I work in construction, not my preference but I'm a single father raising my son {My ex is in love with her mirror} and the money is good. The crew I work on is all male and their combined cognitive ability couldn't outwit a bowling ball stuck in the mud.

Could my true love be a heartless bitch? Hmmm intriguing.


From: "Scott Smith"
Subject: Funny, funny, funny
Date: Mon, 16 Sep 2002 22:29:01 -0500


Very funny. I read through your site and was suddenly heartened that not all women think "Cosmo" and that dirt rag "Oprah" magazine are really what it's all about. Jeesh...

I particularly liked the criteria check list on the opening page. Did you know that's what many men think, too? We hate whiny, anorexic, daddy-hunters too. The other men, well, let's just say they deserve what they get...

But what I thought was the most insightful section of the site was the disclaimer in which you urge whiners to look up various word like, "satire..." and so on. Isn't it pathetic that people need directions on how to go fuck themselves? There's a great Hebrew saying that translates, "Go fuck yourself, but bring me the receipt."

Rock on ladies, keep 'em honest.


From: "M"
Subject: A thank you.
Date: Sat, 14 Sep 2002 14:58:51 -0400

I'd just like to tell you that, having discovered your site this afternoon, at least some of my faith in the human race has been restored. To say I found the the intelligence and wit of your content refreshing would be an understatement. Reading your rants has helped me to move on from a girl who whines into her online journal, wallows in her pity, and would do anything to have people feel sorry for her. Thank you again, and I'd ask that if you post this e-mail on your site, you'd kindly keep my name and address anonymous.


Date: Fri, 06 Sep 2002 10:20:05 -0700
From: MJ

I find your site most refreshing. I am in a wonderful relationship, we both work. This, if we decided to get married, would be #2 for both of us. At this point I brought up an issue which I felt compelled to discuss, a pre-nuptial agreement that is satisfactory for both of us. She was most receptive and we are looking into it now. Bravo for your equal positions and wisdom.


From: "Taron Darkblade"
Subject: Surely could use more people...
Date: Tue, 17 Sep 2002 00:02:33 +0000

To the members and readers of HBI:

Just thought I'd voice my opinion on the site. It seems to me that there are far too few sites like HBI, that are truely honest about what needs to be done with the world, and about their beliefs. There's no tiptoeing about, no staying clear of things that 'might offend someone', or the like. It's wonderful, and I'd like to congratulate you all on making such a site. If only more people would make a stand on such issues, and help bring down the idea that women should stay in the kitchen, smile and do the chores when their twit of a husband says.

In the effort of not being too horribly long-winded, Congratulations again, and keep it up!

~Tristan Higgins, who is off to laugh at the Sappy Sites of the Week.

From: "Don Clark"
Subject: Thanks
Date: Sat, 31 Aug 2002 13:01:02 +1000

Fascinating site: glad I visited.

In part very funny but mostly very sad (that such things should need to be said at all about the human condition, from either "side").

Very thought provoking all round, if rather hard-nosed for my taste...maybe I remain an optimist!

Interesting to see your various year-and-a-half/two year rules. I was beginning to think I was nuts to take so long to get feelings and attachments in perspective.

Good luck with it, but do try and remain as kind as you can. Hard work, for sure, but its really only kindness and truth that make us different from the animals, eh.


ps...what an astonishing proportion: the "moaners" who can't spell! Maybe we should all just do a spelling test as soon as we clap eyes on one another!!!!

Don Clark

From: "Mike"
Date: Tue, 27 Aug 2002 12:30:25 EDT
Subject: HBI website


I just wanted to say (as a 19-year-old male) that your website was fantastic. I didn't agree with everything I saw on it (but I did with most), and found a rare few of the pieces to even be anti-male (though *very* funny :) ), but I thought overall your website was pretty awesome.

I especially loved your annotations of recieved emails. It's amazing how easily you can show even members of the supposedly "educated classes" to be idiots simply by holding their claims and assumptions up to logic.

I used to be that type of sexist, noxious, self-pitying jerk you've so eloquently ripped apart many times. Actually, I wasn't like that very long ago, that was my freshman year in college-- the self-described "nice guys" and closet misogynists sound eerily like me circa six months ago. I guess one could call me a "recovering asshole." It's nice to see the type of guy I once was get his ass kicked so beautifully, because it reminds me of why I don't want to ever go back to being like that.

I also must say I was amazed at the man who claimed he was going to protect his wife from your site. I'm not in a relationship now, but when I am, I'll definitely tell my girlfriend about your site. As for that other guy (I believe you named him "Slimey Prick"-- he was a British guy), anyone who fears that influences like, you know, feminism and reason, will challenge his relationship has serious insecurities.



Mon, 29 May 2000 22:16:57 -0500
From: Randy Simmons <>
Subject: What's wrong with being a heartless bitch?

As a man, I hate all those ditzy waifs who obsess about their being too fat, or too this or too that, and it's good to know that heartless bitches are here to set 'em straight! If women would just assert themselves and drop the stupid "fair maiden" cliche' everyone would be better off. It would also be nice if other men stopped putting value on the anorexic weakling women, and start going out with a heartless bitch. God bless heartless bitches for being both tough and fair to both sexes. People need to wake up and take responsibility!

Date: Thu, 18 May 2000 18:41:38 -0700 (PDT)
From: Phoenix <>
Subject: Loved the site.

Funny how all the assholes who rag on ya so bad can't seem to come up with anything besides the dyke retort. and as far as IQ and penis size, your insecurities and lack originality lead me to believe that maybe you're given to much credit. I am a feminist, really pissed off by my fellow males (You heard it right, I am a guy.) inability to comprehend equality, that because of a slight hormonal imbalance while they were in the womb, they grew a dick, and now they think they own the fucking world. Get over it guys, don't bitch at people who tell it like it is, get a clue, and places like this won't be around anymore. For now, I salute the Heartless Bitches, may you continue to piss people off untill you don't need to anymore, and judging by the rate we're going, I'm betting you'll be around for a very long time.


From: "Hugo Chikamori" <>
To: <>
Subject: Oh...I just love HBI.
Date: Sun, 14 May 2000 00:25:36 -0700

It's a breath of fresh air. Went to the 'Sappiest Sites' section. Spent most of my time at this site rolling in the aisles laughing my head off. I agree with the fact that all of the sites listed on this particular page could be so sickening that one could spend the majority of the afternoon heaving one's breakfast and lunch in the 'porcelain god'. In fact, it's starting to make me rethink my site to make sure that it isn't as sick as the 'Sappiest Sites' candidates.

Great website. Looking forward to coming back and seeing the newest additions to this particular section.

Thanks for the laughs.

Hugo Chikamori

Subject: Cool Site
Date: Fri, 12 May 2000 13:48:27 -0700
From: Mark Silva <>

Hi. Just had a penile biopsy yesterday. Not too painful, but not real fun either. I'm glad I had a woman doctor do it. I think they have a better touch, somehow.

I like your site- Thanks to all the Jerks out there for making it easier for us decent guys to find and love women who will love us for what we are. (and do, and say)

Mark Silva

Date: Wed, 10 May 2000 19:24:55 -0600
From: Matthew Kuester <>
Subject: Great website!

I just wanted to say that I love your site. I've been a regular reader for years. Your no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is website is a wonderful change from the attitudes of everyday life. Any daughter of mine is growing up reading the "Honorary Heartless Bitches" list. Thank you for saying how it is and how it should be.

From: "Brian Grossman" <>
Subject: Superb Site! ~a MALES opinion~
Date: Wed, 10 May 2000 15:15:52 EDT

Dear Bitches,

I LOVED your site. I thought it was the most hilarious and uplifting work of literature i've read in a long time. I browsed through the movie section (since some of my favorite flicks include "Hackers", "The Matrix", "Empire Records", "The Craft" and "Jawbreaker" which are totally centered upon the "bitch" persona), i looked through the Mail from Males section to see what kind of comments you recieve (my favorite was "I'm a weak and intimidated male looking for a mistress to dominate him, can you help?" "NO!" classic!), and i had to look at some of your empowered articles (just because i was interested in seeing what kind of works your people write up).

I'm impressed and taken that you've created a domineering and inspiring web site that expresses the oppinions of truly enlightened females. I attend an incredibly cliquy (spell check? fuck that...) highschool and know all to much about the brainless cheer leaders, whiny waify girls, mentally challenged jocks, and the letharios who specialize in demeening and seducing women for sport. Most of my friends are bitches (YEY KAT!) and i love every minute of their abrasive comedy, no-shit policy, and their ability to speak their mind without fear of oppressive responses.

I'm very interested in becoming a member, however i wasn't sure if you accepted men. Is it possible for a male to be in total control ("honey") and have a penis AT THE SAME TIME!?! Please tell me, because although i am interested in flashing a BITCH card, supporting my BITCH friends, and emphasising my BITCH qualities i am not going to mutilate myself or surgically (i said fuck the spell check!) change my gender to join.
Thanx for reading, and for a good laugh,
Brian aka B*Rock

From: "Doris Barlow" <>
To: <>
Subject: You chicks kick ass!!
Date: Sun, 7 May 2000 16:40:49 -0700

You chicks rule!!! I'm a male and I'm sick of being surrounded by weak minded little girls who can't think for themselves. One question: will any of you marry me? lol

From: "Kp Bhui" <>
To: <>
Subject: You women are awesome
Date: Sat, 6 May 2000 00:33:23 -0400

Your site complete rocks! I'm 21 yr guy and just totally luv your perspective on men and women. I think it's awesome women are getting more power everyday in our life. I can only pray that in future men would not be so threatened by women in charge. As a matter of fact my father is happy to see my mother work and have higher income than him because he doesn't have the pressures of raising our family all by himself. I can only hope to find a special woman with your attitude. More POWER TO THE WOMEN!!!!! Keep the awesome job!


Date: Wed, 26 Apr 2000 02:29:14 -0400
From: Jason Kauppinen <>
Subject: The site

Hi there,

Several months ago when I read the article "Why Nice Guys are often such losers", it made me realize that I was a little too "nice" myself. (Although thankfully not to the terminal degree that was described)

My first reflex was to write: "This sight helped me to become a better man!!" but that's not exactly right. It prompted me to think. I did the rest myself.

Jason Kauppinen

Date: Thu, 20 Apr 2000 13:20:40 -0700
From: Stefan McDonald <>
Subject: Great Site!

A truly fantastic site! I just spent a couple of hours browsing your site--you absolutely define the true heartless bitch. This should be mandatory reading for women and men alike. I laughed, I learned, I shook my head in agreement. I actually found your site in a guestbook at, a parody of "big time" religion. Some imbecile (typically grammatically impaired) was ranting about how horrible the landover site was then really ranted about knew it had to be good. You have another big fan. Thanks!

Stefan McDonald
Technical Director - MTWC Group

P.S. You might check out -- the character Nemesister is definite HB material.

From: Sam Jensen <>
Subject: message
Date: Mon, 10 Apr 2000 13:37:03 +1000
I'd like to send a message to all prospective HBs:

RUDENESS DOES NOT EQUAL BITCHINESS (at least not the form of bitchiness that this fine website proports)

Being a bitch is about facing the consequenses of youre actions, being strong enough to cater for yourself, and not relying on others, or blaming others for your shortcomings

treating people like shit, and being nasty does not a bitch make - it just makes you rude and obnoxious, and leaves you far, far, FAR short of the esteemed title of BITCH
thankyou for your time

Date: Sat, 8 Apr 2000 11:45:51 +0800
From: Robert Lopez <>

Nice site congratulations! While I can see you are not anti-male, an email address starting with 'supreme bitch' does not leave much margin for error. Most men of course treat women with respect and visa versa. It is only at the fringe that you'll find men with an unhealthy, chauvinistic attitude towards women or women with an unrealistic dislike of men. Much more common I think is men who go through a temporary phase of thinking women are fragile and naive or women who have a chip on their shoulder, about being liberated, and want to prove themselves. I might be wrong but this sort of mindset is more common the younger you are. I am not a chauvinist but I guess there was a time when I was. My only excuse for this was that in a school, early college environment, you hang out in a system, with your buddies, that literally drills it in to you. I am convinced that my attitude was changing rapidly at college anyway. Seeing women doing courses much harder than mine and achieving and succeeding in all areas was helping me to quickly unlearn any chauvinism I had. I do not want to bore you with the details but my wake up call as a young college student came from an unexpected source. At college I boarded with a friend of my father's and her daughter. The daughter was unemployed and a bit on the lazy side. She was, however, the opposite to me. That is a liberated women with a chip on her shoulder. It was inevitable we were going to clash and we did. We disliked each other and traded insults from the start. This went on for a few months until her insults turned to threats. I never threaten her back, but one day in a fit of temper I did. She immediately challenged me to carry it out. This was something I refused to do. Moreover, I began to see she really meant to confront me and so decided the smart thing to do was back away. She, however, would not let me just walk away and kept pushing the point. I swallowed my pride and backed down. After this little incident we both grew up a bit and started getting along. If I was a chauvinist I certainly was not anymore. Cheers!


Date: Sat, 01 Apr 2000 12:45:20 -0500
From: Tom <>
Subject: Your web page

Dear Madam,
I just got done reading your manifesto. Wow! All I can say is that for the first time in my life, I wish I was a woman, so I could join your club/organization/group or whatever! As I read your manifesto, I got more and more excited, almost jumping out of my chair and yelling, "OHHH YEAH!!" It's just so refreshing to find people that actually have a nodding acquaintance with reality. The one in particular that hit home with me was this one:

Have you run out of sympathy for your Female friends who continually whine about how awful MEN ARE, but then they keep dating the same kind of ASSHOLES, over and OVER, AND OVER AGAIN!?

Yes! YES!! YES!!!! Throughout my life I have had several female friends that were just that, friends, and nothing else. All I ever heard from some of them was how their boyfriends treated them like total shit (and even as a guy, I had to agree that some of those punks were pretty big douchebags). Whenever I advised them of the obvious and only action to take, (Telling the clown to hit the fucking highway!) I always got the same infuriating and lame reply, "But I love him sooo much!"

I thought there must be something wrong with me. There was something I just wasn't getting. I thought there must be something fundamentally flawed with the female of this species. I'm glad to see that is not the case. As with any cross-section of the populace, it's the sick, warped majority that ruins it for the rest. Thank Christ to see that some of you have taken steps to address and correct the problem. I wish you all the best of luck.

I too find myself sick to death of all the bullshit sexual politics of the world today. I like jigsaw puzzles complicated, not my relationships with other human beings. I don't like trying to pretend I am somebody I'm not, so I don't. I enjoy poetry, classical music and good literature (ie., NOT Stephen ing or John Grisham!) but don't believe in being a "sensitive" kind of guy. Guys should embrace manliness and just be what nature intended them to be. Plain-spoken, strong, earthy, and themselves. Nothing is unmanlier than shirking responsibility. I believe Don Corleone put it best when he said, "A man that doesn't see after his family can never call himself a man." Or somesuch.

I don't think you have to join those drum-thumping fruitloops to be a real man these days. Just do whatever it is you have to do, and be honest in doing it. And once in a while, go out into the woods and build a campfire with nothing but what you find on the ground. (Helps keep you in touch with your roots.) What else am I missing?

I think that women should be the same way. Just be themselves, and not all those things you rail against in your manifesto. Anyway, I think you are doing an excellent job, best of luck in your recruiting efforts. The sooner we all get away from the bullshit peddled in magazines like Vogue and Playboy, the better off we'll all be.

By the way, should the unthinkable happen and I manage to pass the BAR exam, would it be possible to buy advertising space on your web page? After all, a heartless bitch might need a heartless bastard lawyer at some point, no?

Thanks and good luck, Tom

P.S. Oh yeah. One other thing. Bingo about Michael Bolton and Kenny G. Those emasculated pricks with more hair gel than talent should be strung up from lamp posts with piano wire. Let their bodies twist in the wind as a warning to all future New Kids on the Block that we're coming for them too! (Yes, by the way, to answer that question you probably have, I *am* available as a motivational speaker.)

-- Ipsae leges cupiunt ut jure regantur

Date: Sat, 1 Apr 2000 01:27:10 -0800 (PST)
From: greg ernst <>
Subject: HBI Sympathy Giveaway

Heartless Bitch,
I am a male, and I also hate whiny, weak, silicone-laden, cock-driven, feeble-minded girlies, as well as half-wit, won't-take-no-for-an-answer pussy hunting neanderthal "men"....And wonder if you have associate member status available for males.

Greg Ernst

From: "Charles Dover" <>
Subject: Real Deal Women! :-)
Date: Thu, 30 Mar 2000 11:40:34 -0600

This site is 'right on' and I'm glad a lot of people - males and females - are discovering it! It's great to know there are plenty of intelligent,decent, 'solid' female human beings on planet Earth! I'd like to see some articles blasting,exposing maledom and femdom for the 'flimflamdom' that it really is. All that god/goddess and pseudo-spiritual ranting and raving is sucking in,hoodwinking,mesmerising so many males and females. It's like Amway with a 'tude' and a big stick!
Genuine friendship doesn't have one pulling rank, being the supreme tyrant over the other. You don't shit and piss on your friend. You don't beat your friend with canes,whips,etc. You don't crush your friend's spirit and turn him/her into a slave, a robot to cater, pander to your every rotten lazy-ass touch hog sensation freak spoilt brat little tyrant desires! You don't do a bunch of dirty low- down stuff even though you know you could pull it off quite well. Real and complete intimacy has no wild twisted circus going on! Please don't give me a bad grade for my grammar,punctuation and spelling. LOL :-)


Date: Thu, 30 Mar 2000 09:03:07 EST
Subject: HBI

Dear SupremeBitch Goddess:

I stumbled across HBI today. I spend about a half hour viewing the delicious tidbits of bitchiness, intelligent ravings and hilarious columns.


Do you allow men to join? I'm gay... so I was hoping that would count in my favor.

In deepest awe and respect, Sal

From: "Paul mac" <>
Subject: site
Date: Tue, 28 Mar 2000 22:46:27 +0100

I laughed a lot, but felt uneasy sometimes, must be my upbringing

Paul Mac

Date: Mon, 27 Mar 2000 21:49:24 -0800 (PST)
From: Steven Gardner <>
Subject: Attitude is Everything!

I just wanted to congratulate you for providing the freshest site I've seen in a long time. I can't remember ever wanting to cheer when I read internet content! I especially liked the "Weak of the Week" and "Sappy Site" awards. What a hoot!

To make a long story short, I'd like to put a link to you from my website, including that cool little "axe-in-the-heart" graphic you've got. My page is pretty simple and is really only there to explain why I beleive what I believe. On it, I say what I mean. It may even offend, but that's just too bad (a little latent HB there). I've got a table of sites (with links) that reflect my views and attitudes; some better than others. Yours will be presented in a very positive light.

Now, if I really wanted to, I'd do this without permission but I feel you've earned my respect. In fact, you're the first I've asked permission of. If you'd like to see my page before agreeing, I understand. The URL is

Feel free to stop by for a look. I'll be disappointed if you withold your permission, but would accept any constructive criticism in its place. Please be advised, that this page is very much in its infancy. Also, I won't link to you without permission.

To contact me, you may reply to this address (on Yahoo), or use my "real" address at


Steve Gardner

From: Don M <>
Subject: Cheers!
Date: Mon, 27 Mar 2000 19:13:01 -0600

I loved your site, very well done. I have passed it along to some women I think will identify with it.


Don, just a Dum Gai

Cheers Don `,,`,,

Date: Mon, 27 Mar 2000 16:50:26 -0600
From: Michael Emerson <mdemerson@DELTA.IS.TCU.EDU>
Subject: Like the basic premise of your website

Well, I didn't think I'd say this when I saw the link, but I loved HBI in all it's idiot-hating glory. I can't say that I'll be back to check it out again, but it was definitely good for a laugh or two. Have you ever read Ayn Rand? Her Objectivist philosophy seems to run parallel to a lot of what HBI is saying. Oh, and by the way, I almost wet myself reading the rejected applications and idiot male letters. Thanks for putting up yet another humorous slice of the Web for me to find.


Date sent: Sat, 11 Mar 2000 17:04:41 EST
Subject: Your Web site

OK, I'm a man (English). What a laugh, I thought your stuff very amusing and will return for more. The sappy sites were great but the recent UK one was a bit worrying: Dave is working only 30 miles away from my home.

Keep it up. (You may quote me).

Date sent: Sat, 11 Mar 2000 14:09:59 EST
Subject: Good Advice

If women actually took your advice to heart and acted on it. Your heart is in the right spot, but I have a feeling that the majority of women are into short cuts in life, thats why they have never gotten equal rights. Maybe in a few thousand more years. :-)

From: "Ferret" <>
Subject: site
Date sent: Sat, 11 Mar 2000 02:48:55 -0000

Respect due. funny as fuck site.

i despair in "emotional children", religion, bimbos, pop music, womens magazines. stupid little sneezes, idiots, people who moan about their own choices, dicks trying to pull girls with their car and adverts.

personal responsibility and direction is the only way.

oh, yes, and im a bloke.


From: "Evan Sexton" <>
Subject: Male HBI advocate
Date sent: Tue, 7 Mar 2000 20:20:53 -0500

Hello, I am a 29 y/o professional male in Tennessee who applauds your attitude. If everyone approached life like HBI's no one would get misunderstood. Having fallen prey to many "damsels in distress," I appreciate women who can say what they mean and mean what they say. I've learned my lesson and am only interested in HBI's. Just because you're heartless doesn't mean you don't have soul.

From: "Jason C." <>
Subject: thanks
Date sent: Tue, 07 Mar 2000 18:11:21 CET


My 7th grade english teacher, Mrs. Smith, had this annoying habit of always dividing the people in the world into two categories to illustrate whatever her obscure point was, i.e., "those that blah-blah-blah and those that don't." Being a proud product of the American public education system, I embrace this idiosyncratic logic, probably out of sheer laziness (ironically though, I still am uncertain what a gerund is...).

So, the muddled point of this already tedious and verbose message is, the world is divided up into two groups: those who get it and those who don't.

I enjoy the blistering, serrated wit of your site immensely. Where do you find the time?



Date sent: Fri, 03 Mar 2000 02:21:17 -0600
From: David Williams <>
Subject: yeehaa

Bravo Natalie.

Just wanted to say what a great site. Thought provoking and I had to wipe off the screen from the coffee that escaped. Keep up the good work....

From: "Robert McPheeters" <>
Subject: Idiots
Date sent: Wed, 1 Mar 2000 23:12:46 -0700

I notice that a significant portion of your website deals with idiots (regardless of gender). I thought I'd pass along a quote I read a few years ago. (Although I probably don't remember it verbatim, so I guess it's a paraphrase).

Democracy may not be the best form of government. It doesn't give society the leaders they want. It does however give society the leaders they truly deserve.

Kind of scary isn't it?


From: "Allison Johns" <>
Subject: A man's view
Date sent: Wed, 01 Mar 2000 19:30:10 GMT


What a hoot!! The world of normalcy exposed!!

Even in high school it would drive me nutz to see the antics of schoolmates; in their pathetic "boy meets girl" dance. Tears, machismo . . . argghhhhh . . . gag me with a spoon.

It doesn't seem much different now -- 25 years after the fact. The dance is more complicated but it's still a dance.

It's kind of ironic . . . those of us (yes, I include myself) who are members of a rare species called "people with a life" or affectionately termed "high and mighty pricks/cunts" (or in this site's more eloquently termed Heartless Bitches) have such a hard time finding company with a similar kind. Fuck the saying "you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince(ss)". We won't bother.

Soooooooo . . . cancel the subscription to the dating service and plod on surrounded by bimbos and himbo's and their wannabe ilk. Invest in Duracell or Jergens.

Life is cruel and maybe Darwinian theory applies to all lesser forms of life (damn, don't those himbos/bimbos keep on reproducing themselves). How do higher life forms find a suitable mate and save the planet from the Barbie and Hulk Hogan's of the world when we are separated by both time and space.

The above comment was cruel. We take our pets to the vet so I suppose these people have a right to exist. (Hmmmm...I wonder if we can put them to sleep when we tire of them though.)

Yes, how opinionated of me. But then again, so is this man-hating, ugly-dyke site which obviously doesn't understand the proper way ladies should treat their menfolk. Or behave for them. (LOL!!)

Keep up the good work "girls"! (hehe) The links from the sappy-site-of-the-week were a scream!!


A Man from Outer Space.

ps. How much hope do we have when so many people truly believe Pamela Anderson is a babe and can act. (From watching a bit of her and Tommy-Lee's video I'd say Pam looks like she ain't great in bed either. Him...well even if I was gay I'd term him a major dud.)

pss. a Heartless Bitch match-making service?

Date sent: Tue, 29 Feb 2000 13:41:48 -0800
Subject: Stupendous!
From: Travis H Lamoureaux <>

Wonderful! Absolutely wonderful! Sometimes I am embarrassed to be a member of the male type of our species. This is the type of stuff I love. You miss are very intelligent, and I congratulate you on your site. Please keep posting those "People who just don't get it". I haven't laughed like that in a very long time.


Date sent: Sun, 27 Feb 2000 23:35:13 -0500
From: Michael Kalus <>
Subject: thanks :)


I must say the site gives a good read :) In fact I finally found a description for the woman I am looking for: Heartless - Bitch.

I agree with Richards article. THEY are really hard to find it seems, but it seems I finally hit gold...

Thanks for the good read.


Date sent: Tue, 15 Feb 2000 01:25:48 EST
Subject: Thanks!!

Okay Where to start it's about time somebody is telling it like it is. You don't "bash" males you just let them in on the secret that they are ignorant and boring, And for that you are labeled either a Dyke or Frustrated hag! My God people open your eyes and see the truth! And what you do to the bubble headed wannabe bitches is hilarious You are to be commended for your attitude and anybody that would put their insecure little egos aside for just a second would be able to figure out what a heartless bitch is all about. thank you for a breath of fresh air in a truly toxic dump like the Internet.


Date sent: Sun, 23 Jan 2000 21:02:20 -0800
From: Warren <>
Subject: a happy outcome

Tis strange,

You sound a lot like my sisters--all who were raised to have a mind of their own. Oldest sister had divorced a nice-guy who wanted a family and housewife and instead became a university professor, married another professor, wrote many books and had a kid, who is now a well adjusted teen. Youngest sister is very strong willed, is an accounting consultant, and tends to prefer living alone rather over sharing someone *else's* life. Middle sister is my confidant! Strong and Wise. I call her for advice. She often laughs at me when I take myself too seriously.

A couple days ago, I was taking myself too seriously, again: undergoing a self induced misery as I prepared to break-up with K, yet another candidate HB. Then I ran across your website. Cool! I laughed. I dashed off to pick K. up from work -- for our 'last' meeting, so to speak. Her first reaction was "what's that silly grin on your face?" We were no longer an 'us'; she was free to be herself--and I was free to be myself. Quite exhilarating! "Oh it must be the music!" I said irreverently. There we were, expecting a heavy session, and instead we were laughing. I mentioned to K that I ran across a cool website called "heartless bitches international" ... we started to Joke about one liners--mine was: "What's your sign? Exit!"

So, one thing led to another and <wow!> was it ever good! Today, I've been joking to friends that K and I broke up ... we're only having sex, now. She's even trying to set me up with a mutual friend. As for me, I'm trying to smooth things between her and her ex. So, it's more than just sex; we're really turning into good friends--we're looking out for each other--without pretending that we're a couple of overgrown haploid cells seeking to merge into a single heaping protoplasm. Life is good!

So, many thanks! Hope you're doing well.


BTW, AI was a high school passion of mine--but, I never got a degree. Who needs a degree?! Why not create an artificial whiner? Learn by doing!

From: "Kieron McGuire" <>
Subject: A letter of admiration
Date sent: Tue, 18 Jan 2000 13:21:02 +1000

Dear Heartless Bitches,

Congratulations! Your site is a welcome antidote for the plethora of destructive, puerile nonsense on the net. It made me stop and realise (with a shudder) how seriously some folks take themselves and how desperately they need to be taken down. I enjoyed the "weak of the week" section immensely. I read all of it with wicked glee. The responses were RAZOR sharp. I only found out about this site today and I'm much gladder for it.



Date sent: Mon, 17 Jan 2000 10:05:09 -0600
From: Eric Bur <>
Subject: I Love It


I am a man and love your site. I can't wait to show it to my wife, who takes great pride in her bitchiness. Waiting for the companion site, "Fuckin' Bastard" ...

This is truly great stuff!


Subject: Comments on your site
Date sent: Sun, 16 Jan 2000 01:49:52 -0600

Just a short note to tell you that I think your site is wonderful! It is now one of my bookmarks.

Your take charge and move out attitude is a refreshing change from the indecisive and feeble minded non-movers and shakers I seem to encounter all the time!

Keep up the good work! No need to send a reply or acknowledgement to this message, as I know you have better things to do.

Jack L. Croft

Date sent: Wed, 12 Jan 2000 10:11:08 +0000
From: C & G Woodruff <>
Subject: Weak of the week...

ROTFLMAO... Oh that was good, I loved it. The insight, the witticism, the perfect thing for a pissy day. I will be back everytime I need a laugh... LOL. Thank you for providing an invaluable service. Have any of you considered comedy? this stuff is great. Take care and all the best. George

From: "Tim" <>
Subject: Re: Cool site.. Love the honesty
Date sent: Fri, 7 Jan 2000 11:32:59 -0500

The article on why nice guys don't get women is right on the money.. I have been trying to tell this shit to a friend forever.. He's still a fucking virgin I think.. I of course have been mating and dating for years and have been married twice, both to very beautiful women.... I wasn't mean, but a women wants a man, not a wuss.. I don't care what anyone says..

Best Regards

Date sent: Fri, 07 Jan 2000 03:06:21 -0500
From: "william.e..." <>
Subject: Brilliant.

I have just rediscovered this brilliant page again, and appreciate it now more than ever. This time around I read for the first time the essay on "Why 'Nice Guys' are often such LOSERS" and it is inspirational. I must admit I have always been and still am (but getting over it) a "Nice Guy" in the worst way. Recently I have begun to learn to not be ashamed of my instincts as a man, to not be apologetic for my perceived shortcomings and to allow myself the freedom and confidence to enjoy what I deserve. I feel these crucial values are the same you instill in your readers. (It is a long process and I have only just begun.)

Thank you for explaining, with no excuses, that codependency, insecurity and victimization is bullshit and does nothing for ones life, male or female. Your pages and websites like yours should be required reading for frustrated, angry, sorry-for-themselves females *and* males who need to realize some truth.

Anyway, thanks again for your brilliant pages I hope they never end. Oh, and whoever writes those biting responses to the weaks of the week, etc. is extremely talented (but of course they fully realize that.)

From: "g_doug_foster" <>
Subject: You're whipped cream encased in steel?
Date sent: Thu, 6 Jan 2000 12:10:35 -0600

The Supreme Bitch? I know her, and you're not her. You're intelligent, with an advanced sense of irony which precludes the title. Sorry.

On the other hand, I like your arrogant attitude. We could swagger down the street together, swapping stories and passing a quart of malt liquor back and forth. I'd never 'give a inch' and you wouldn't either, would you?

You're a cream puff, SB. Hmm. Bad metaphor. You're a crab rangoon?

From: "Daniel Kroker" <>
Subject: your site
Date sent: Wed, 5 Jan 2000 10:58:24 +1000

Congrats, you have been mentioned among the best sites to visit by, thus the way I found you. I'm not a heartless bitch or anything like that, I'm just a guy who visited and thought he would show you a little appreciation for your work. I thought at first that this was going to be a man bashing bullshit site. But as it is not I applaud your efforts to find people's strength and allow them the focus on that. If I am correct, your statement of being a "bitch" is basically about not allowing yourself to be a doormat. If so then keep up the good work.

Yours faithfully,

Daniel Kroker
Australia, QLD, Petrie Terrace

Date sent: Sun, 28 Nov 1999 20:02:37 -0500
From: Alec Dale <>
Subject: Thank You!

I just stumbled onto your site via the site of one of your card carrying members. After reading, laughing my ass off, and saying "finally some intelligent life out there" to myself for the last 30 minutes, I was about to apply for membership. I actually started to fill in the application form, wondering if you actually give memberships to men. My next thought was that it would be pretty hypocritical if you did not. Thankfully, that thought was quickly replaced by my final thought on the matter, which was "Why the hell would it by hypocritical? They can do whatever the fuck they want!". For what it's worth, I wish I encountered more people like you and your members on a daily basis. By the way, my quote is "Gray matter is not something you find between the covers of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus".

Alec Dale

Subject: beautiful minutiae
Date sent: Thu, 11 Nov 1999 15:01:13 -0600

Well, yes I do agree that a great deal of our conceptions and misconceptions come from our pedantic culture. And another truth of the matter is that there are just a lot of ridiculous people out there, men & women both. The truly wise are few and far between, and the good-looking/wise are very few and far between. I'm always hoping to meet such though...

Kevin J. Rosser
Senior Editor Rapp Collins Worldwide

From: "Brian Wright" <>
Subject: Very Educational
Date sent: Thu, 4 Nov 1999 16:34:58 -0800

I have to say that reading your site has been educational at the least. I think that I have learned a lot of things *not* to do by reading your pages. Everytime I stumble upon feminist pages (though that may not be the entirely appropriate term for HBI) I am rather amazed by some of the concerns that are raised about men and the treatment of women in general. I know I do some stupid things. Heck, while reading through your pages I've managed to realise the stupid things I've been doing. Maybe it will bring about a change. I just wish that more men were made aware of a lot of your concerns. Hell, I think that we can be a clueless bunch at times (not that women can't either) I guess I just wanted to say thanks for enlightening me a little bit.

From: "Phillip Lessley" <>
Subject: I shouldn't've been surprised at the email address...
Date sent: Tue, 2 Nov 1999 01:34:17 -0800

So far I have found your site to be incredibly funny, even though I have only had time to read the "Weak of the week" section. That it has over 150,000 hits, and an impressive generation of email is no surprise, anything done well will be recognized. This site was listed on a friend's page, and I am extremely glad that I decided to check it out... that she just recently became a member is no surprise, but hey... oddly enough, I never thought of her as a "Heartless Bitch", just an interesting person. I'm writting this with a smile on my face, it's rare that I find anything worth reading anymore. Thanks for providing this forum!

(and yes, I fully expect this to be torn apart and degraded :P)

From: "Savigny" <>
Date sent: Thu, 21 Oct 1999 20:37:17 PDT

Awesome website with lots of inspiring and hilarious comments from the real life heartless bitches! You go girls! A large portion of the gay male community would completely identify with your website. Strong independent women have always been worshipped by gay men. It's all about empowering a minority. Keep up the great job!

A Male Bitch (reading Ms Albright's biography)

Date sent: Tue, 19 Oct 1999 05:35:11 EDT
Subject: Your site

OUTSTANDING!!!!! I am am male, but 99% of the things in here drive me up the fucking wall. Keep up the great work. (I never thought I would say that to a bitch)

From: "Qaaty Systems" <>
Subject: Kick Ass!
Date sent: Wed, 13 Oct 1999 00:46:49 -0700


I haven't thoroughly combed the site yet. I guess you could say I've skimmed half of the surface, but I like what I see so far. First of all there's that reference to Ayn Rand . . .

So far I haven't seen anything down on guys in general. The only thing that ever pisses me off about feminazis is when they're just completely down on guys for no particular reason.

So far, everything I've seen resonates closely with what I think about the worst specimens of masculinity. I guess the other thing that I like about the fact is that GIRLS WITH NO GUTS ARE BORING!!! Guys tell each other to date goddesses. While they limit that to looks alone, (shallow regardless of gender), I date nothing but goddesses, keeping fully in mind that true goddesses are just as likely as not to kill people when it's warranted, but they were goddesses and knew it. There's something incredibly enticing about a woman who's awesome, knows it, says so, and expects to be reminded of it by a guy awesome enough to know exactly how cool she is.

Hasta Gehenna,
Derrek Richards (Poet at Large)

Date sent: Tue, 12 Oct 1999 17:16:35 -0700 (PDT)
From: Aaron Burt <>
Subject: Just praise from a guy.

Dear ghod... finally someone scrubbed the bullshit off of relationships. It's a stinky job, and I thank you for doing it.

Not that I'm against romance, it just gets confused with some sort of muddleheaded need for a lay and an emotional ass-wipe. It's waaay more fun than that.

I guess I never realized that the kind of gal I've been seeking would be a "heartless bitch." Thanks again for the revelation.

Have you considered personals or a dating service?

Hmm... "Skinny, literate, vanilla, liberal gun-nut, 29, seeks heartless bitch, 25-35, who thinks independent media, Hello Kitty and motorcycles are nifty. Nerds, ex-Goths and Epicures preferred. No bony chicks."

Nah. Wouldn't work.

Date sent: Mon, 11 Oct 1999 23:38:22 EDT
Subject: Hear Hear!

First off, I am a guy.
Just thought I would get that out of the way first.

Secondly, I would just like to say "Hurrah" that there is at least one site out there determined to make a stand against all those Induhviduals out there (Dibert reference, but it fits). I was sent to your site by a friend, who found it quite, ah, informing would be a good word I suppose. *grins* I went in a little warily, expecting something about "All men should be castrated and/or killed for the good of the planet/human race/gene pool". Instead, I found a well thought-out series of protests against "normality" and expectations of conformity. The only thing that saddens me is that I cannot be a member, but I still espouse your beliefs and wanted to tell you to continue in your work, who knows, it might slap a few people back into the reasoning Human Race!

Heartless Bastard

Date sent: Sun, 10 Oct 1999 09:50:17 -0500
From: adam moon <>
Subject: What the world needs now.

Is another great site like this one! I stumbled across your pages through disgruntledhousewife.comand what a blessing! Pages upon pages of women that think for themselves. How refreshing! No one needs the sniveling, whiny, dependent, psychotic women claiming to be bitches. Ditch them all. I am a single 35 year old male who has no desire to tell you what prestigious university I never attended , name my penis or measure the damned thing! Your site kicks some whiny ass. Keep up the great site and continue to stand tall.

Thanks, toast

Date sent: Fri, 24 Sep 1999 00:37:31 -0400
From: Joel <>
Subject: couldn't help but bookmark it

Dear HB Editor,
Lemme say WOW first and get it over with. I have rarely stumbled upon such a compilation of cross vindictive and laser beam clarity of self expression. However this site came into being it must have been a phenomenon to behold! I spent about 90 minutes, yesterday, pouring over it before I realized I needed to begin to pace myself to really take it in with good measure.
So I expect to return again and again. I particularly enjoyed the honorary HB's. By coincidence, I had mentioned Rosalind Franklin's contribution to the study of DNA just 2 weeks ago. My circle of listeners were perplexed that they had never heard her name. And there she was at the top of your list! I'll indulge myself with another WOW. You must be into community service. I was quite struck with the Venus/Mars rejoinder, so that's why it always gave me the creeps. I acknowledge deviance between the sexes but I find more difference within each group than between each group. People is people.
On a personal note, there are still a lot of HB's in my life, and I get along fine. Occasionally I may get a whack in the nuts,(a metaphor), but it rarely happens without reason. It's a teaching tool, call it "The College of Hard Knocks". I can handle criticism.
One last note my handle was endowed on me via a very funny story, so please do not read in any innuendo. I am a bricklayer. Well maybe a little innuendo... But I am more than a support system for a penis.
Thanks for the laughs and the thoughts.

Date sent: Tue, 7 Sep 1999 00:37:41 EDT

Supremeo: Enjoyable site, well put together and a delight. Content is appreciated. With five daughters who can hold their own with any man, I think my opinion is worth a nickel or two, more women should be like the HB brand. Bill L.

Date sent: Thu, 02 Sep 1999 21:46:38 -0400
From: Lord Shadow <>
Subject: Mail from Male

I have to say, appologetically, that I see WAY to much of myself in your Nice-Guy Rants. Thank you for this insightfull and PAINFULL, look into myself. I'm sick of tip-toeing around the Poletically Correct dating scene like a bull in a minefield. Excuse me while I go grow up.

P.S. Rock on!

Subject: Hmmm, not entirely sure....

I must say, I have had a great deal of fun reading your pages. Under normal circumstances, I would have trouble believing some of the men who write in with their whinges, or to tell you how misguided you are, but unfortunately, I seem to know them (or, at least, some men very much like them).

I also appreciate (no, I can't spell, I know) the general philosophy of,"you don't have to be a half of a couple for your life to be complete", or as I have always phrased it,"Settle for what you want, not for what you think you can get."

So many of the men who write in say things like "I married a heartless bitch", or "I want to marry a heartless bitch". Get with the picture guys, the important thing is whether they want you or not. The other thing that bothers me, is many men, whether for or against, say in their messages, "I'm tall, well hung and all my friends consider me to be good looking." All I have to say about that is some women find me attractive (especially the blind ones) and some women say that they find a twelve day dead dog more attractive. Me, I don't really care.

As to all those men who want a Mens' version of Heartless-Bitches - stand on your own two feet ya wimps (or, at the very least, get back home before you fall down, gutters are not comfortable).

One final comment, there is one thing in the world which is worse than a "nice guy" and that's a "nice guy" who insists on telling you all his relationship problems for the last five years, while you're trying to have a nice quiet beer. There are far too many of them, believe me.

Oh well, enough inane drviel for now.

Keep up the good work.


Richard Davies

Subject: You rule!!!!

from a pissed off about whiny little fucks guy Just stumbled upon your page. Just wanted to let you know that your attitude KICKS ASS!!!! Keep up the great work. Put a sock in the endlessly flapping traps of whiny victimized weakling women and those oh so fucking phony sensitive guy types. Stay loud and pissed and real!! You're the best!! Thank you also for an honorary mention about my idol, Camille Paglia!!

Subject: HB Site is red hot !

TWIMC, stumbled in from somewhere else. (Directions ? I don't ask for directions, I'm male!!!!!) Wanted to tell you (and everyone I know) what a great site you have here. Keep telling the world that not all women wanna be some sort of accessory to a someguy( "I'm almost thirty and I'm not a wife yet. What's wrong with me?" Wahhhhhhhhh.) Keep keeping the "Typical Males" (read bozos) in line. SHOW NO MERCY - but hey, you HBs never do!

Subject: Web Page

Unfortunately, I don't have enough time to fully enjoy and explore your web page, but just let me say that I am impressed with the look. You did a good job (I viewed it with Netscape 16-bit 2.01) I especially liked the hearts; the chopping one is an especially nice touch. If everyone on earth just took care of themselves, and didn't worry about others (and what they do) so much, we'd be much better off. But ours is a world of dependencies. One point, though. Upon reading comments on the page from men, you make it seem as though intelligent men are hard to find. Well, no harder than intelligent women - we humans, I think, are all almost universally idiots in one way or another. Just in different ways.

Subject: Your Page/Organization

I just mailed to say that your page rocks, and has really great graphics (especially the on with the axe in the heart). I'm only 13, but when I grow up, I want to marry a heartless bitch, who will stand up for herself. We have a few possible future recruits at my junior high. We have some very sexist guys in my class. They think women should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. This statement is usually followed by them yelling "Woman! Get me a beer!" They usually have a fight with the heartless bitches about equal rights, or something related, at least once a week. What a bunch of morons. Half of them are failing this year anyway, so the heartless bitches in my class won't have to fight with them any more.
Matt Froese
PS. Odd coincidence, but the heartless bitches in my class have some of the highest marks.

Subject: Do I call you 'dude'?

You remind me of my roommate Jose. We swear she's a guy. She's cooler than shit, and, me being a guy, I'm not embarassed to admit that she can totally kick my ass. But your page and stuff kinda reminds me of her personality. Anyway. Kick ass page. I love it. Just though I'd comment on that.
- Chris

Subject: none

Whoa, heavy letters to you. can't we all be just 'civil bitches and bastards'? I guess I may have married a HB, but that's WHY I married her. My mom was like that.
------Scott Barnard

Subject: hbi

Very nicely done, although the title is a bit of a misnomer. The testimonies are much more heart*felt* than heart*less*. At any rate, about how often do you plan on updating the site? It lloks like its worth coming back to.

Subject: Your web page

Truly an interesting web site!! It's pretty cool! I especially liked the animated gif on the menu w/ an axe chopping into the heart. Nice Touch!!! I'm working on a site of my own, but it's not quite in your class yet! Just for curiosities sake, any plans for Total Pricks International (for men of course)? Happy Bitching!!!:-)

Subject: Hello.

I have met more than my share of the female equivalent--they're dating, and god help us, they reproduce. Who are more worthy of contempt--the raging bastards who use and discard women like spent Kleenex or the cattle that keep coming back for more? Quit making excuses, ladies! Walk away and let nature prune them into extinction. A miserable life of solitude is better than a day of abuse. Self-respect. "He's not THAT bad!" Yes, he is.
--R. Smith

Subject: none

I enjoyed Heartless Bitches immensely. I can only say I wish there millions more of you. Knowing real ladies like yourselves is very hard. I've searched to try to find something I could disagree with, just out of curiosity. Truly, I believe that where you stand, emotionally and perhaps, may I call it politically (?) as well as socially, is the greatest place of all. It's what I call the absolute center of fairness balance equality and just plain old happiness........ Keep up the message!
Best Wishes, Doug Hermann

Subject: excellent site

HBI kicks ass. I laughed, I chuckled, I occasionally squirmed uncomfortably. Don't stop. Take no prisoners. Have you considered adding songs to the list of books & movies? Plenty to choose from, even _not_ counting Alanis M. As for books, what about _The Female Man_ by Joanna Russ? Parts of that make HBI look "nice". Kinda depressing that we're only coming up with examples from science fiction, though (although bully for SF).

Subject: Heartless Bitches

I found your page both amusing and illustrating, it is filled with good living advice, set out in an aesthetically pleasing way and is information rich. I especially agree with your views on try-hard, macho, immature and generally lame men, they are an embarassment to the human race.. the sad thing being that they have the potential to be so much more than they are. I believe that we all must make our way through this life by learning from our mistakes, and I think that your page provides a good basis of philosophies to learn from. I could write for pages on the good points of your page, but much of it has already been covered by you and associates. Just writing to let you know of my support, make sure you continue to keep the quality of your site at its current high level. (Some friendly advice - try not to let the lure of fragging and flaming get in the way of your presence of mind. Here's hoping that I didn't show myself to be TOO pathetic.., I won't ask for membership to your page, unless you want to give it to me first, but I have only so far gone out with "Heartless-Bitch Girls" :), maybe this influenced me to a degree..? :)
"Have a day",
-Vladdy :)

Subject: HBI Membership application

Reasons for being a Heartless Bitch: I'm not. I'm a 'nice' guy and you're frighteningly accurate in some of the pieces on your home page (which is one of the best I've seen). You make me want to be a Heartless-Bastard

One Liner: Out of 10 million sperm why you?

Subject: none Your gratuitous plea has been heard!!!

Your web page rocks! The Heartless-Bitches page rolls! And, I can only conclude that you generally... well, you know. Reading your stuff has been a lot of fun and not at all a GIANT excuse to procrastinate, as an objective observer might conclude. I've got to run now. P.S. I'm not trying to awaken your inner BITCH or ANYTHING like THAT, but I do believe it's gratuitous, not gratuituous. :)

Subject: Thanks

Dear Head Bitch,
Thanks very much for your web page, its a great combination of fun stuff that made me laugh and some cuttingly accurate observations about me. I say that as a 'nice guy' who did most of the 'nice guy' things you describe before and after my wife and I separated. I don't agree with everything on the web page, but some of the stuff has opened my eyes - or at least brought some things into focus. I should realize that my wife is intelligent enough to know what makes her happy and if that's not me then tough shit - get on with your life and respect her enough to get out of hers Thanks



Subject: Heartless Bitch's Men's Auxiliary

Excellent. I think the most redeeming feature of the internet is the number of self-empowering women using it. I hate "stupidity, arrogance, irresponsibility [and] bloated egos", and would be proud to be a card carrying member of the Men's Auxiliary. Please let me know when/how I can be. My own web page is under design, and should be up by September. Your link will be among the top featured.
Justin Johnson

Subject: cool site

It amazes me that, in this day and age, any of the content of your website would shock or anger anyone. For any well-developed, properly socialized person, the truths contained in your pages are self-evident. Your character assessments of the nice guy and himbo were particularly dead-on. I date a bitch, and work for another. True bitches will always have my utmost respect.

Subject: Web pages

Hi there, I have just rummaged through all HBI postings and yes, that is fresh. Made me think - Equals made me want to think- who I am e.t.c., and i am thankful for that. I don't want to bother you with any more of the new-believer stuff, as blessed are those who have nothing (new) to say and yet they are quiet. Just wanted to say it's very good

Dear Nat,
Thanks for providing a whole evening's worth of procrastination. I'm locked away in a little room studying for my qualifiers and you provided just the right amount of humor and intensity to lift my drool stained face up off of my molecular cell bio text. I'm a repentent Nice Guy (tm) but it took me going through Hell (tm) and back to realize what a digusting ground slug I had been. Anyway, I think I have a slightly skewed and (possibly novel) perspective on the heartless bitch phenomenon. I happen to be bisexual, and depending on context, have recently been referred to as a heartless bitch. Funny, it took me dating a noxiously sweet Himbo to realize what kind of a creature I had been with my HB (female) ex-fiance. So I've been on both sides of the fence (pun intended). Now I can objectively say that being forced to date a boot licking bon bon of a male is definitely a cure for being one. The other interesting side effect of my lifestyle is that I'm hopelessly attracted to my HB lesbian friends. Sadly the percentage of HB's seems to be much higher in women of that persuasion, thus leaving men who are addicted to the assertive, self possesed woman with very slim pickings among the few straight women who would deign to associate with us lesser creaures. Seriously though, it is a very hard for an intelligent, sane person to find others like themselves to have a meaningful connection with. You have restored my faith that there might be a woman out there who will talk with me about neural networking molecular signaling pathways while walking on me with her 8 inch spike heeled, knee high leather boots.
P.S. My nominations for Honorary Heartless Bitch goes to Ayn Rand and her character Dominique from The Fountainhead. (Some great HB quotes in that novel)
It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who errs, and comes short again and again (but)....who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat." Theodore Roosevelt (1910)

Subject: Love the site...

Perhaps a man's view is in order here... The women who I find attractive are invariably unique, intelligent, opinionated people. They complete their sentences, can distinguish a discusion from an arguement, and are responsible for their own orgasms. Woman are sexiest while they are doing whatever it is they do best. Clearly your site is meant to antagonize those guys who treat women like the "weaker sex." It's too bad they're too stupid to even find this sight. You've done a fine job. I am masturbating at this very moment. Well, maybe not at THIS very moment. Actually, not even today... but some time this week. Yes, it will be this week. I'm sure of it.
P.S. your a fine woman and a fashion statement.

Subject: B-I-T-C-H

Hi! BITCH - Being In Total Control, Honey. If we reduce it on that - shouldn't we all be bitches? Really liked your website - first I thought it was just some "men-hating feminist geekgirl page", but then it really made me think. Keep up with that!
Greetings from Stuttgart/Germany

Subject: Nomination for "Heartless Bitch " page

I think you should allow my sister in law Sue to be on your heartless bitches pages...She is a heartless marching bitch and knows what she wants and how to get it ... She did'nt want to wait to get her mits on that big diamond ring of her Mother's who's a terminal cancer patient. Fuck no... that's be like circling like a fucking buzzard...Being the heartless bitch that she is she went ahead and asked the old gal if she could have it before she kicked the bucket....of course that way the other sister would'nt get it even thought she the dumb ass that been taking care of her Mom since she got ill...Moral of this story...Little sis needs to be more of a Heartless Bitch
B-I-L - Brother in law
Married to little sis (who is now a heartless bitch trainee)

Subject: Great site!

Wow! I've been on the web for quite a while now, and this site has got to be the best I've ever visited. The comments, although often witty/funny/hilarious/sarcastic/etc. are also honest/sincere and the TRUTH!!! As the saying goes, "many a true word is spoken in jest". I am engaged to a bitch and have never been happier - it is so nice to be in a relationship where the woman is not afraid to be strong or confident. As for the "what makes you sick?" section, I have two comments. (1) Finally! someone else can't stand those alt-kids with the attitudes! :) (2) For all those guys who talk about penis size: "those who've got it, use it; those who DON'T, talk about it!"
Keep up the good work!

Subject: I Have Seen The Light !

You have made me a new man, I will never forget (forgive) you.

Subject: Great site, but perhaps your attitude is a bit provintial?

Love your site ladies (oh, pardon me, it just slipped), it helped me gain some insight into a perplexing situation. But I should point out that you should exercise care in categorizing every "nice guy" as an asshole. I'll give you an example: I was raised in Latin America, and in my home country women only really began hefting the sword in the 70's. They've begun to swing it, but they've a loooong way to go before they get to where you are now. Being a sweet, sensitive and supportive guy there was equivalent to becoming a pariah with your peers (the other guys), and setting yourself up for all sorts of abuse. Now, of course, me being a crusader, I just had to forge myself in that particular fire. I then spent a few years in a very modern city in the Orient, where things were a little better, but the idiosyncrasies are more deeply embedded (after 5,000 years of cultural status quo). I had the misfortune of falling in love with a Chinese woman who'd been educated in Canada, and she tore me to shreads, good intentions on my part non-withstanding. Now I'm here in the States, where I've been leery of even approaching you guys, until now that is, having benefited from surfing your site and gotten a better idea of WHY you women react so negatively to guys like me (it takes a while to shake it off when it cost you so much to have it in the first place, but I think you site's cured me). I applaud your position, which frees us guys to concentrate on the finer nuances of life and relationship, instead of worrying about injustice; but keep in mind, "nice guys" can in fact assist in smoothing the way in backward places that do not yet enjoy the liberties so many of your predecessors fought for so dearly and which you seem to take for granted. And if you think I'm being arrogant, take a good look at the Middle-East, India and other fucked-up places and tell me to my face a few more moderate, enlightened and influential men wouldn't make a difference and pave the way for realistic women's rights and equality. By the way, I have something for your movie and book page. I see you put up Project A-Ko. Check out "Ghost in the Shell" (more Manga, now available at Blockbuster), you'll enjoy it A LOT. I think it has the potential to become a true classic at this site.
Keep up the good work!

Subject: names

After reading a few of the letters it's terribly difficult to imagine you and others as heartless bitches. I believe you have a very good heart and that you are only tired of the crap that some have laid at your feet.
Thank you,

Subject: GoodOnYa

I enjoyed my visit to your site, and am spreading the word here in Chilliwack, B.C. (Canada for those who live further than 5 ft. from the border) Will check with you again.

Subject: Message from the Dark Side

Heartlessness meaning rational, thinking, and independent is very cool. I very much enjoyed the piece comparing us men with dogs; that's the spirit! But I don't grasp the anger and lack of humor I see in other pieces. We get, on average, about 80 years to do what we're about, then its off the old mortal coil. Why spend most of the time angry?

Subject: Impressive...

I'm impressed...that's it. I'll bet you hate these ;)

Subject: heartless bitches

What a funny and true page. The comments on what drive women crazy are very good, and they really (well, many of them) don't apply to just women. Here's an important point. Why would I want to marry or go out with a woman who WASN'T capable and independent. It's WAY too much work to deal with some clingy wallflower type. Why should I have to guide the relationship? It's hard enough trying to figure out my confusing life without trying to run your as well! Anyhow, I'm going to send the URL to my sister, who will appreciate it in a big way. Anyhow, loved it.

Subject: Your list of things

I don't have a lot to add. You've certainly covered all my major complaints, 'cept very personal ones. But I'll think hard about it. I particularly like the one about mis-spellings in E-Mail. My fingers don't keep up with my brian and as a three finger (total) typist, I tent to get a bt twisted. (My favourite is 'becuase')

Subject: Thank You

I enjoyed visiting your site. It is well designed and the effort shows.
Barry Carter

Subject: none

Dear HBI, I am a guy (dont hold it against me!!!) and I got onto the HBI homepage through a link from the FireFly board, while I was here I wanted to let you know I think youare providing a great outlet! There are sooooo many guys out there that need to be taught a lesson in humility. Keep up the fantastic work... BTW, yes i am gay... (although I doubt it makes much of a difference) I am sending this through a friend's EMAIL so dont bother with a reply.. :)

Subject: HBI

Well, congratulations on a thought-provoking group of articles. (esp. the ones on "Nice Guys" and the "Mind Manipulator") I find it disturbing that I can identify with some of the traits, in personal contacts when dealing with others. (not really in Relationships of an intimate or sexual nature, as I have been Celebate and a Virgin for the 25 years I have walked this earth, and since I have made it passed the hormone laden teenage years with my virginity intact (not really a hard task, actually, lefty kept me company ;) I have no intention of leaving the peaceful life of having no such relationships. well, that certainly was a self indulgent aside ;) While I don't agree with everything, I would say I agree with most of it. -- "I view a woman like a tiger, beautiful but dangerous, both demand my respect. Neither would I trust enough to not keep a watchful, defensive eye, as either can be cold, calculating and merciless, out of necessity. I feel neither should be caged, nor do I feel malice against either, for I realise that a balance has been placed in nature. And, I, being out of balance, am the outsider." peace,
William R. Barlow,

Subject: himbos

yes yes yes this is sooooooo true...nerdy guys are sexy cool and neglected.........

Subject: web-site

Somehow I found your web site. I, being a man as you call us luckily, find this site great. Shall be giving all this information to my ex- wife who is not a heartless bitch, but a confused bitch with a heart. Go figure!!!! Great site.


Just found your site while clowning around on the net (you know the drill). You've got to gear up the heartless bastards pronto! I've found my soul mates! Take care and continue to give those anemic dorks hell! Sooze, I cc'd you to let you know about this site.

Subject: All Together Now... Heartless Bitches???

What kind of a label is that? This is the one of most together attitudes I've ever seen! You are truly Divine. I look forward to a world where both sides stop whingeing and just get on with it. The message you are spreading is very important; thankyou for making this effort - I mean it.
PS: Have lots of children - the world needs your chromosomes.

Subject: Natalie P, did you write that hurl URL?

Or are you a WebMeister type?
Great stuff! Thanks to whoever wrote it. I feel better now and can go back to work

Subject: dat phreaky page

Heh, nice page... Y'know, I always knew that bitches kicked ass. Unfortunately, people like me (young, lovesick, and inexperienced in the ways of bitchism) are the ones who fall victim to the ass-kicking.
Anyway, bitch on!

Subject: Get a Life

Nice Website you cyber bitch!

Subject: Oh, my

I just read that letter--well, bunch of letters in a row that are apparently supposed to be words-- from (Jeff R. Reece). Eeeeeeek! I think I'll just build a fort out of my couch cushions and hide in it 'til I'm sure that this guy is dead or working for the post office.

Subject: comments from a bitch whipped male

WOOF!!! Hey, You chicks are definately different!! I have a bitch of my own and could not stand any of those so called wannabe bitches for a friend or lover, so right on and keep the flag for all those QUEEN bitches!!!!!!!!!!

Subject: HBI

Nat, Im not going to spuew off some thoughtless reply and Fluff and Ego or two here. But all I did want to say was that something very cool just came to thought here. You know what is the #1 complaint of the Male? Yes that would be "I dont understand Women, What is it with them anyway". Your site has a Lot of the answers To questions I had have or what ever might be said. Its great to see someone knows where the Comunication boundries are and Plows over them with a Big red Buldozer.
T. Budde

Subject: I like can you NOT like it!

Being a male who considers himself to be very open-minded, I think your web site is great! Hopefully, women will find it and develop a little self esteem, some nerve to stand up to the assholes in their lives. Any man who isn't capable of dealing with a woman who has a brain, and a mind of her own, deserves the grief she gives him.

Subject: Men are not morons, people are.

The coolest part of the site is the animated heart chopping axe. But don't fool yourself-- it's not just guys who are stupid, it's the human race. Consider that probably 1% of the world's population is actually making progress on this planet. If all of culture, technology and knowledge was immediately purged from the face of the earth, would the average person be able to fill in the vacuum? People are idiots. Like any system large enough, there will be anomolies that will produce "a diamond in the rough", but make no mistake about it. People are freaking idiots. I leave you with this thought: Nothing tis good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison. (Hamlet, quite the angst ridden person himself)

Subject: Your site... Like your site.

Clear, well-written, and heartfelt; anyone hardcore enough to register a domain name like has got to have the stuff to back up her talk. I had a heartfelt personal share prepared when I realized that yer probably a magnet for every romantic hard-luck case on the Web (and the concept of what that total might be positively boggles the mind). To use the vernacular, it ain't nothin' you haven't seen before. I'll spare us both. So, lest this note detour into "Computer Dork Confidential" or a hair shirt for the sins of the male gender, I'll just say this: your essays nicely summarized something I've had floating around in my mind for a long time about the whole "Nice Guy" thing. Opened my eyes, or made me see what was always there, and I wanted to thank you for it. Even though you didn't do anything deliberately. Whatever. I'll be putting a link to your site on my homepage, so expect your traffic to be skyrocketing least 1, and possibly up to 2, hits per week. So you got that to look forward to. If you're mortified by the idea of a link to this site on a male-operated homepage, reply.

Subject: wow..

I sure am glad that I am more open minded than some of the "guys" that wrote in making complete asses out of themselves. Obviously they do not have the intelligence to realize this. I am currently in the most wonderful relationship with a woman that has her independence and has her head on her shoulders. And the day she takes crap off of me.. may it be the end of the world. I like your site and will definitely tell my partner about it!

Subject: Grrrrrreat site!!!

O wonder! How many goodly creatures are there here!
(Miranda, The Tempest, V.i.181-82) I'm sick of all the whiners, helpless self-help fans, and people who complain about their "needs not being met" without doing anything about it themselves, but nobody's ever laid it out for me so eloquently or persuasively before. Maybe you should consider renaming yourselves "Bitches with Heart" --aren't the passive-aggressive, simpering, lethargic, deterministic grousing martyrs out there REALLY the ones without any heart (or at least guts)? It's so very, uh, heartening to know you exist! A suggestion for "Heartless Bitch Pop Culture"...check out Geena Davis' superspy Charly Baltimore in The Long Kiss Goodnight. You could put Charly Baltimore in a room with Ripley, Tank Girl, Terminator, James Bond, Jason & Pinhead, and if you gave her 15 seconds to take 'em all out, she'd do so with enough time left over to enjoy licking their blood off her nails. She also manages to be a great mom, has sex on her own terms, and tells the U.S. President that she'd rather teach school than work for him. You've been warned! Now,if you'll excuse me, I've got a rather pleasant task to attend to. I've got a buddy who keeps sending me JPEGs of naked females not of my acquaintance with captions like "think you'll like this one." I'm still not quite sure why he's interested in trying to arouse me, but I'm going to refer him to your site so he knows what turns me on!
Thanks again, & best wishes

Subject: Fartless Britches will never sell

This was sure interesting. I married a hearless bitch 25 years ago and am I every glad I did, by gosh. And we have have a beautiful 12 year old heartless bitch in the making. Strong women make strong men. I'm living proof. If it weren't for my strong ass grandmother, my strong willed mother, and my strong steady wife, I'd be a poster boy for heartless bitches for sure. Left to themselves, guys would live in a cave with dogs and sheep and a really loud stereo. Thanks to heartless bitches, we have become tame, live in a house with a really loud stereo, and sheep live somewhere in the country like god intended. Okay, so maybe we pretend to like it. But some of us are really ok once you get us house broken.
Don't ever change, ladies. We won't.

Subject: yet another

hi - great work; you've worked hard at this page i respect your accomplishment i respect women who accomplish things rather than continually sexualizing themselves for attention. I couldn't think of an appropriate compliment for your page that you don't get many times a day other than this: you have acheived what i gather is your goal; as a guy who will respect women rather than have contempt, and thus receive contempt rather than respect from women, you hurt my feelings with your generalizations about men, even though i don't dispute their validity. i hope you see this as the high compliment that it is. and credit for your honesty which sharply contrasts the hypocrisy our culture is so based on. If you want further data that women are indeed winning the war between the sexes, check my awful web-page (don't worry, it's bad but very short): and credit for your polyamory; my girlfriend also has two boyfriends.
ed b, jerk

Subject: Impressed

Heartless bitches, interesting terminology. I am very impressed with what I have seen on your site, and it is definitely a favourite in my browser. Where have you heartless bitches been all my life? I love to see people (regardless of whether they are male or female) stand up for themselves as people. Those that won't stand up for themselves deserve every bit of shit that they get. (This includes me, whose lack of 'standing up' cost me a wife and 3 year old son.) No stupid F... will ever take anything from me again, that is for certain.
Viva la HBI

Subject: 2,4,6,8 who do we appreciate? BITCHES!

I stumbled onto your site a couple months ago via the Pee-Wee Herman page. I about laughed my ass off at some of the comments by the "real-life" heartless bitches. keep up the good work, bitches, and keep ridin' herd!
---- Steve Ramirez *

Subject: Sisters in Arms

Dear Natalie, Love your site. The little animated gif of the axe chopping up the Valentine's heart sums up the ethos of HBI nicely. I hate all that brain-dead sugary romantic crap about hearts, flowers and especially pictures of little boys and girls holding hands and kissing. It turns my stomach. And don't get me started on films! "Sleepless in Seattle?" Dreadful shite. "Waiting to Exhale?" I couldn't wait for it to end, it was so bad. "Thelma & Louise" a credible portrayal of two women's efforts to shake off the shackles of their male-dominated lives? No - exploitational tripe. Women everywhere seeking recognition on the grounds of ability and not gender have an uphill task ahead of them. Self-appointed representatives of that cause are not always helpful. Take the hysterical Sinead O'Connor, for instance. She's a pathetic joke. But the simple truth is that men will go on dominating women only as long as the women let them. If there hadn't been a Civil Rights movement in the US, black people would still be forced to give up their seats on the bus for whites today. Do you think the South African government had an overnight change of heart and decided to end Aparthied? No - the ANC had to fight a long and ruthless campaign to end it. It's the same now for women. Men aren't going to unilaterally change their ways. You're going to have to take the fight to them. But don't be too hard on those who aren't as "enlightened" as you. Not everyone is cut out to be a soldier, good luck, John O'Regan.

Subject: Good Job!

Excuse me have we meet? I wish we had or maybe we will, you never know. (possibly lovers, friends, coworkers, codefendants, brothers/sisters in crime). Either way---Line those myth's * up against the wall and mow them down. What it comes down to is that stupidity is its own reward and ultimately its own punishment and people should suffer for their stupidity(AKA TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for their actions)not you or I. We are the poor misguided people (societies definition not ours) man or woman who have had the intelligence and the guts to bring their own version of heartless bitch-ynes to the surface and use it. Much to the chagrin of the whiners and professional victims around us. How many time have I heard a man or a woman (after nailing their left foot to the ground and walking around in circles scratching their head with one hand and one hand on their crotch saying "Maybe we'll get back together") you want to scream at them "Get a clue, a life, or a brain and wake up----SHUT UP AND QUIT WHINING TO ME ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT'S YOUR LIFE I DIDN'T RUIN IT YOU DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!----sorry I got carried away. To continue: I like your web page, I love your attitude and your stile. Keep it up.
* note: Insert name or group of your choice. :-) Brad.

Subject: Sort it out!

Why do you women insist on moaning (and I don´t just mean when I´m in bed with one of you, and that´s pleasure honey, not the just a whine about the state of the ceiling)? For years men have been doing all the work, hour after hour, just so you lot could sit around on you rapidly swelling arses watching some crap on TV. We have to go to work, earn the money, and what do we get when we get home? Nag, nag, nag. Always the same. Put the shelves up, I´ve had to look after the kids all day (like that´s some kind of effort!), where have you been, screwing the secretary no doubt, you don´t love me anymore, have you asked the boss for a pay rise yet... On and on, crap crap crap. If we´ve been screwing the secretary, it because we deserve it! And now you have the audacity to complain about a bit of chivalry! Of course I open doors for women, some of them are pretty damn heavy I can tell you. Of course we should be protective of women, you are the weaker sex after all. Of course I give up my seat to women, after all those heels can be a bit of a nightmare, right? Irony :) Two can play at that game! Squishy yet respectful love, Jim XXX

Subject: Your web page

Very, very, nice page. You really have something worthwhile to say, and you say it with style. This one deserves the bandwidth. I'll be checking for the start up of the men's auxillary. We're not all bad you know, It's just that God played a trick on all men when He (yes, for me God is a man), gave us both a brain and a penis but only enough blood to operate one at a time. I like your swing on the pendulum, Camilla would fit well on your page. I've got you bookmarked and I'll be back.

Subject: quick hi!

I really loved your site....the best humor is rooted in truth! I'd take a woman of character over a fem whimp any day...that explains the co-existence of my wife and I :) keep up da good woik goils!

Subject: early heartless bitches

I went to Haverford College, a formerly all-male institution near Philadelphia, in the 80's. The "sister school", which is still all-female on the undergrad level, is Bryn Mawr College. I have a great long-sleeve T marking the 1886-1986 centennial of the College with the slogan "One Hundred Years of Castrating Bitches". I'll always cherish it. I think that the people who made the shirt had exactly the same ideas as the HBs. Keep up the good work.
P.S. Try, just TRY, to be POSITIVE.

Subject: HBI Membership application:

Reasons for being a Heartless Bitch: Life! I'm a man, but sometimes it is very hard, because a lot of men or so stupid. My girlfriend showed me your page and I read the rules for men. Some of the rules are really true, what a pity. But I have amother rule for you: If a girl nearby says "My God!" smile and look at her gracefully. I hope my english is good enough... Keep on your work, even if I can't be a member, I'll come back to your page!

Subject: tell it like it is...

cool site, somewhat linear in traversing it, might be my screen resolution. Just wanted to pass on a quote, which I forgot the author of: "I never met a man under 25 that was worth the gunpowder to blow him to hell" I, alas, probably fall into himbo category 3. ciao - ~N~ "The Yawfle stares and stares and stares and stares. And stares and stares and stares and stares"
- Edward Gorey

Subject: Compliments

Hi -
Using a friend's computer / she states a clear disclaimer on what I say. I haven't laughed so hard or so long in a very long time. I'm going to give my sister your address (she is definately an HB), but I think my mother wouldn't get half the jokes :) Good to see that honesty and responsibility are top of the list for other people - I was beginning to believe that I was the only guy who actually thought telling the truth was a worthwhile endeavour. Again, a wonderful page - I'll visit again.
Cheers - ;)
Damian O'Kane.

Subject: Yikes

RED HAIR!!!! :) no wonder. some ppl bite back.

Subject: none

To whom it may concern: Please let me know when the Heartless Bitches Men's Auxiliary site is launched. I will be interested to see if it is as topical, comical and cutting as HBI, which I continue to enjoy. Are you seeking written contributions, and if so of what nature?
Thanks for your time.
Sincerely, Peter

Subject: Hi.

Just wanted to say hi. Enjoyed the "Deal with it" section. Thought provoking and will inspire some soul searching. I also enjoy Ayn Rand and Florence King, thanks for the links to FK. Keep up the good work. Jim, Pacific Beach, CA

Subject: What a hoot!

Loved my visit at your site.....keep up the good work!
Frasier male Renouned Relationshipologist
Dr. Frasier Crane's Institute of Relationshipology

Subject: Heh

This is really very good. I would like to put a link on my page to yours.
My page is

Subject: HBI Membership application:

Reasons for being a Heartless Bitch: Paul Davey recommended this page to me, and I have to say I agree with everything t#you say. Too often now men , who are supposed to be macho, have at the first hurdle broken down and 'whined' as you put it. Keep up the support for all of us who are piss ed off with this.

Subject: The page so nice I commented twice...

That's as far as I'll ever go in poetry... Anyways... After looking through the membership list of HBI, I was struck with one overwhelming thought... "Here are a bunch of people who finally GET IT!" Granted, you are a little more defiant about it than I am, but then again, my ability to take charge of my life wasn't questioned, it was mandated. That, unfortunately, is the one great non-biological difference between the sexes. Men are assumed to be "in control", and women are assumed to need "affirmation" or whatever it is you call someone else's validation of a woman's right to run her own affairs. I had difficulty understanding why so many "feminists" had to "demand" the right to be treated equally, until I realized that was just how things seem to work here. You deal with it. After all, I didn't ASK for the right to run my life, I TOOK it. (and woe be unto the poor dumb bastard that tries to change that fact) I don't know who said this, but it is a phrase to live by. "Take charge of your life, or someone else will." Your site has provided me with several hours now of fascinating reading, and it has given me much to think about. Thank you.

Subject: Heartless Bitches

And I thought *I* could grind an axe... After spending all day working on my own page, I decided to follow some of the links and see where I wound up. I was fortunate enough to discover your page, and I am very impressed. Not only do I like the "technical chops" on the page (although it *does* bear a resemblance to my original "Bite Me" page), but your content is excellent. (and it beats the Holy SHIT out of my Bite Me page) If you are willing, I'd like to discuss publishing some of your more poignant pieces on my own page. I would, obviously, give the author of anything I publish FULL credit, as well as provide a link to your site so that my readers can see even more of what your site has to offer. I ask nothing in return except your permission. If you do not wish to have anything published on my page, I understand and I wish you the best of luck. Best wishes and Keep Up the Good Work...

Subject: random firing
Hi Nat... Love the heartless Bitch Page... Thank you for so much entertainment! I can't remember the last time I thought, "Exactly!!" so many times in one sitting. The Email was particularly good...the lunatic stuff nearly knocked me out of my chair... ever wonder how those idiots learned how to even turn a computer on? My random firing is: If a tree falls on a mime alone in a forest, do either make a sound? I doubt it's original but I like saying it. Anyway, keep blasting whiney people and force a few to accept some damn responsibility... wouldn't it be great if people were actually accountable for their actions? Sigh... If that man you live with is only a friend and not a/n (in)signifigant other, will you break my heart for me? Thanks again for the humor, Ed
PS Never become an expert is someone who learns more and more about less and less until he knows everything about nothing.

Subject: For what it's worth department

Greetings: Loved your site...extremely clever and well done.
I have a link to you at: Really Neat Women on the Internet

Subject: Whoa!

Hey, I don't expect a response, but your page had me ROTFLOL! (In GeekSpeak, that's "Rolling On The Floor Laughing Oug Loud). Now I have a place to send all of my lady-type friends that just keep bitchin' and bitchin' that ALL guys are assholes. "Life's about choices, and you must learn to deal," I tell them. Now, I gots a place to send 'em on the net where they can get the real poop! Know what I'm sayin'? You Rock, You Go, You Keep It Up! Oh, and on behalf of my gender-- I'm sorry that there are steroid junkies and evolutionary throw-backs who post stupid-ass messages to some folks just being strong and not taking any guff. I read the messages from the inmates. Made me sick!
Rock on with yo' bad self!
*Your Pal* Fred

Subject: WONDERFUL!!!!!

I am a man, 62 years old, just found this page. It was mentioned in the morning paper here in Phoenix, AZ yesterday morning, and I have not had a chance to get to it until tonight, Tuesday, but I wish I would have done it sooner. God, I love your page, your group! As soon as I saw the first page I bookmarked it because I want to see everything on it over and over. Could not agree with you more about how very stupd we men are, at times, in the way we treat women. Agree, with you, also, on how stupid women are when they are in an abusive relationship and stay in it because, "well, I love him, and I know he loves me." Yeah, that is why he beats you around every day, or whenever he feels like it. My wife and I are retired and she watches a lot of the talk shows, and every once in awhile I watch with her, but I can hear them from where the computer is, and the two dumbest statements I hear are, "but I do love him," and "well, this is the 90's, you know." I am certain you see my point. Please, keep adding to this page. Maybe some of the idiot males out there will see it and see how stupid they are.
Marshall Yingling


Natalie, My second email to you tonight. Have just spent another hour in here, and with the links, and still am not done, but must get some sleep. I just want you to know the only thing I have found that I disagree with are the ones from the mental hospital. They just cannot understand how a woman, any woman, would dare to have the audacity to stand up and say things that are said in here. The problem is they are afraid to face the truth. I love your site and will be around it each and every day.
Marshall Yingling

Subject: woo nice page...

i think the world would probably be better off with more women like you in it! but then im married to a heartless bitch so i guess im biased... besides im somewhat of a heartless bastard myself... =) -- "Creeping horror from the depths of time and space" - Invasion of the Saucer-Men The opinions expressed herein no matter how inciteful do not reflect those of my employer.
Tobin Lathrop
CC:Mail Support

Subject: HB Gutsy site!


Subject: Fun site

Dear Natalie,
I like your site - it's funny and instructive at the same time. Your crusade is essential; too many women are falling prey to the subservient stereotype promulgated by our continuing sexist society. ( How does one wipe out 2000 years of Christian anti-sex/women propaganda? - If you havent't read it already, read Barabra G. Walker's "The Woman's Encyclopedia Of Myths And Secrets" (Harper & Row, 1983) ). Not much else to say beyond that I expect no reply, and hope that some of your female browsers see the light. Men too. I have already had my (necessary) education - I married a woman who teaches Women's Studies!
Richard Keeling,
St. Louis, MO.

Subject: Heartless Bitches

Just a note to let you know that someone got a real kick out of your work.

Subject: bitch

I love your site!! Just one thing? Can you have male version for those of us guys that don't have a bitch outlet??

Subject: Music by HBs

Hey, I was pointed to your site by a friend and I just wanted to let you know that I love it! I've been a fan of a lot of the stuff you list in the pop culture sections, most notably the Tank Girl comics and a lot of the music you list (Babes in Toyland, Ani Difranco, and Liz Phair at the fore), in addition to many of the movies, too many to list. But I couldn't help but notice that you don't have either L7 or 7 Year Bitch, two of the most hardcore, grunge-punk bands out there. If you haven't heard anything by either band, I suggest you give them a listen. I can't get enough of either band. They are pissed off and unapologetic about it. It's awesome. Anyway, I know you get lots of mail, so I'll cut it short. Ta!
(P.S. I'd always heard it as "Being In Total Control of Herself", but hey, they both are totally dead-on)

Subject: Your page...

Stellar page you have there! I was beginning to feel better about the human race after reading HB's "Things that make us want to HURL!" I'm with you 100%. But that dream was blown to hell upon reading "Guys speak out about HBI : Free time at the Psych Hospital", my normal cynical The-world-is-going-to-hell-in-a-hand-basket optimism returned. Oh, well…
Stu Thompson

Subject: Male Ranting

Natalie: I enjoy your site very much. It's seldom one finds a valid point of view on a serious subject and humor in close proximity. Congratulations on your fine work. Let me apologize for the idiots who seem to think that moron and male are the same thing. The older I get, the more ashamed of my gender I become. Perhaps there is some new universal immune system break down causing "Y" chromosomes to destroy brain tissue. If we don't get our act together soon, you Heartless Bitches will figure out how little you really need us men. By the way, my wife and I agree that these days the word bitch can be defined as any women with a point of view and the means to express it.
Gary Caldwell (My wife's name is Pat Houston. I refused to change my name when we married.)

Subject: Good page!

I like your site. Your honesty and humor are refreshing. I almost fell out of my chair when I checked out your honorary heartless bitches page. I loved the Reboot show. It had the only original writing and characters that I've seen in years. I always wanted to find out more about Mouse and Bob. I also like your quote of the week.
Keep up the good work!
Bob [the buzard] Thurman

Subject: Heartless Bitches

As a good looking married guy I say "right on!" Why women tolerate most men I'll never understand.

Subject: wow... is pretty scary to realize how truthful and evident these situations are. one guy said he could see parallels with things that he has done and you made him listen. its true. most of us have pulled some of that crap. i am not going to appologize but you did make me think about it and for that i bid you congrats. only if you could do the same thing for those true, closed-minded assholes out there who abuse everyone around them, and get away with it. anyways, i had good time "surfing" your site. keep it up.

Subject: Heartless Bitches RULE!!!!

I just wanted to let you know that it is now 10:00. Yes, P.M. I get off work at 5:00 I'm still here and it's your fault. A good friend of mine forwarded me your HB site's URL. I've have been sitting her devouring every damn word since! Being a guy who cringes when a grown woman actually titters vapidly, it does my heart so much good to know that there are women like yourself and your compatriots out there, who choose to be individuals in the face of our damgaged culture's "expectations" and demand that others take you as you are, without compromise. I have the fortune of living in San Francisco, where this is much more the norm than other places I've been. Because of this, no matter how fucking cold it gets here (and why in the face of this do all the houses have 14 foot high celings??) I can never imagine living anywhere else. Heartless Bitches do indeed rock my world!
Keep Kicking Ass,
B.J. West

Subject: Hey, sign me up!

Finally, I have found a web-page that has a point, is succinct, and gets it over with. Too bad I'm a guy! Have a load of fun 'educating' people to live their own lives! -Jonathan Hsu (Sign me up for whatever I qualify for...)

Subject: [Fwd: Heartless Bitches, It's about Time!]

It's about time the REAL women stood up! I'm sick of the LAME ASS, SILICONED, WONDERBRAed, TAMMY FAE Makeup Wearing, Feel Sorry for me, Take Care of Me, Barbie Dolls with a wooshing sound between the ears getting all of the attention. I'm also QUITE pleased to see that the "PeinsHeaded" -70 IQ males are put in place here also. I won't say more about the males (since I am one) you've done the job for me, Thank You! Keep Up The Good Work and Send Me some Info on Joining The Mens Auxilary!
Frank Ruiz Stamford Connecticut

I completely agree and am glad to see that women notice it too. I was beginning to think that all women fell for attractive jerks. Well at least all the ones at school do. I don't consider myself completely hideous, but since I'm a fairly decent human being, I completely repell women. You're right in your observations posted on your page, as vulgar as the presnetation is. Some people just aren't fit for existance. In fact I say we start rooting out all the spineless women and all the jerkoff men. Then perhaps the human race may progress.

Subject: HBI

Hi ! Stumbled across the "Heartless Bitches Int."-page, and I must say it's a relief to finally hear (/see?) girls saying right out what they mean. (I take it there is a core of truth in the pages, it isn't all irony and sarcasm? :-) ) No more subtle, double-bottomed messages we "ought to get". Keep up the good work! (I'm not kidding, I really liked it ! But I'm glad I already got a girlfriend...)
Greetings from Stavanger, Norway: Odd Einar Kolltveit

Subject: none

Natalie: Phenomenal site! While I may be one of the men about whom you complain, I nevertheless enjoyed your words of wisdom. I hope you're successful in changing the world (or at least a small part of it).
Boola Boola

Subject: I Love HBI

Hi, Congratulations on your HBI website, it's hilarious. I was in tears reading the "85 rules to be one of the guys". I haven't laughed so hard in months. Keep up the good work.
Number One Fan -- joseph

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