Brenna
There are several qualities that make me a Heartless Bitch.
They can be easily seen in the things I fear, and the things I
don't.
- I am not afraid of asking the uncomfortable questions, in public.
- I am not afraid of being best friends with a guy, and ribbing him
mercilessly about his foibles, and taking it just as easily when he teases
me.
- I am not afraid to be unmarried and in a long-term relationship, despite
the fact that I am now the oldest child on both sides of my family who is
unmarried and feeling the pressure to "make it legal".
- I am not afraid to tell those same nosy relatives that I have no intention
of ever having children.
- I am not afraid to laugh loudly, and to make eye contact with
people.
Here are my fears:
- Not having financial independence
- The subtext in some popular culture about women's roles
i.e. The movie "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" makes it ok, humorous even, to try and
kill your spouse. As long as the one-liners are good, no one will notice that
little detail, right?
In, "You've Got Mail", Meg Ryan's feisty character only gets her guy after
she closes the independent bookstore her mother left her, and then goes to work
for said guy in his giant, corporate bookstore. She gives up her ambition and
self-determination, in order to become an employee of the guy she wants.
- The fact that no one seems to NOTICE these messages! They're too busy
drooling into their popcorn, apparently.
- The fact that I was only able to find one other girl who was disgusted by
talk at our table at a "Ladies Only" wedding luncheon. The conversation revolved
around how best to convince your boyfriend to go for an eyebrow wax. But then,
we were at a country club with the sweater sets and pearls, Junior League crowd.
I would much rather have been with the guys, having wings and beer. Plastic
women frighten me.
Overall, I would have to say that I am independent, authentic, unafraid of
life and its very messy experiences. Yeah, I misstep sometimes, and usually I
can laugh about it, but at least I'm not afraid to try.
I'm a professional, and I don't feel that ass kissing and fawning are
prereqs for a professional woman. I present myself attractively, but it's the
last weapon in my arsenal, behind my wit, intelligence, and perceptiveness. I
also believe in making the distinction between what makes me attractive, and
what makes me look like a hooker.
I like my sex uninhibited and often, but I don't need to talk about it ad
nauseum, because my value is not just in how well or how often I
screw.
I know it doesn't seem as though I rate very high on the Bitch meter, but I
think it's more a matter to me of being strong in my convictions and not being
swayed by popular opinion, rather than being able to deliver a scathing rant.
(Though I've done well for myself in that arena, a time or
two!)
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