Fabala
I actually never realized before that I was a Heartless Bitch, or
that there was a distinction to set us apart from any other person. For four
years I had attended an all-girl's, high school. People had boyfriends, but they
didn't publicize it and all the drama of relationships happened outside of
school. Everyone wore the same uniform so we had to judge people on their actual
personality. No one wore make-up.
As far as I knew, there were just people who were stupid and people who
were not. Stupid people could be defined by those who had an entitlement
complex, paraded themselves about as self-proclaimed martyrs, or both. I think
the key trait was that consequences of their actions were never their fault. I
never really cared, because I never associated with these people; my relations
were with those who didn't cast themselves in the role of perpetual victim &
girls who wanted to be their own "prince," girls who helped me study for physics
examines by making mock-questions that involved horrific things happing to our
teacher, girls who made me THINK.
I found out I was a Bitch this year when I attended college. Without nuns
ready to pop out of bushes to put the "fear of God" in me, I discovered I had a
voice, and I LIKED the sound of it. I exercised it and found out that "I'll
never get a date with THAT attitude" (oh noes!).
I am a Heartless Bitch because:
- I do not resort to ad hominem attacks and strawman arguments to further
my views and degrade that of another's.
- I would rather fall on my ass then sit on it.
- I believe that being single is a legitimate lifestyle and not a
transition phase until "the right man" comes along.
- I do not want to be "swept off my feet" when they are quite capable of
independent movement.
- I do not consider self-deprecation to be a "bonding experience," nor will
I devalue myself in such a way just to be accepted. When everyone is done
comparing back fat, I'm ready and willing to say my fat and non-existent fat is
sexy.
- People may insist on acting like emotional children, but I refuse to be
their mommy.
- If you are going to behave like a doormat, I will have no sympathy when
people walk all over you.
- I think labeling a problem does not FIX the problem, nor does it address
it.
- In addition, switching labels does not fix the problem. If you were
dating a "bad boy," dating a "nice boy" is not the solution - especially if they are both asshats.
- Lastly, I would like to add that if person is "trapped" in a perpetual
cycle of dating Ms. or Mr. Wrong, I'm inclined to think that it's not them, it's
YOU.
Country: United States of America
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