Kim
I'm 31, a mother of 2 children, engaged and I work full time. Does
this alone make me a Heartless Bitch? No. Maybe, though, how I got here and how
I live my life now does.
I was abused as a child by my father and as soon as I was old enough (by
the court's order) I moved out to my mother's house when I was 13. Growing up as
I did of course I made some stupid choices, got pregnant at 16 by a man 12 years
older than me and I had a beautiful little daughter. When this man started
abusing me I got out right away and had him arrested. Never took him back,
either.
So at 19 I was on my own for the first time, a single mom and in a dead end
job. I could have lived on welfare for years and done nothing, but I got work
instead at an office, where I worked my way up the ladder. Took that knowledge
and kept applying it to better and better jobs.
I also took all the knowledge I got from my past abusive situations and
never got involved with anyone that was below MY standards that I had set for
myself. I stopped worrying about what I could do to make a guy like me and
started thinking instead, 'do I like him?'. If the answer came back no it wasn't
worth my time.
At 30 years old I found myself unintentionally pregnant again, despite
birth control. It was a very new relationship and making the decision to have
another baby wasn't easy. My boyfriend, now fiance, didn't want to stay around.
I gave him the freedom to make his own choice and made up MY mind, no matter
what he was going to do.
Now, I have a great little 9 month old son as well as my now 14 1/2 year
old daughter. And my fiance, well, he's still here and I couldn't ask for a
better man.
I still work full-time in an almost male dominant industry, though I'm
currently on maternity leave. During this time at home I've started building my
own business, have completely and single-handedly renovated my bathroom, am
househunting, taking care of all the financials of buying a new home, do all the
housework and child-care during the week and still find time for a shower every
day.
But that only proves that I'm strong and independant, not really
Heartless.
What makes me really Heartless is that I don't say yes when I mean no, nor
do I cave in when I've said no. I don't entertain friends who are emotional
vampires, nor do I tolerate it from family members. I'm not afraid of asking my
fiance to do things that need to be done, whether it's taking out the garbage or
making sure he stays on that...spot...right...there. None of those 'you should
know what I'm thinking' games for me. I don't sit and Bitch about things that
need to change, I get up and do them. I don't play insipid songs when I'm sad
and I'm not afraid to laugh out loud when I'm truly happy. I tell the truth and
don't sugar-coat it. I live big and think bigger.
And I never, ever, at all, listen to fucking Celine Dion. She may be from
my home town, but Vegas can keep her!
Country: Canada
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