Faeriebellamum
I don't live my life to meet others expectations of what I should look like or behave like. I refuse to be a doormat for someone else to step on and don't understand how others can accept being treated this way.
A neighbor continued to return to an abusive relationship. I told her firmly that my door would be open at any time of trouble for her children but she was not to call or run to me unless she was ready to get rid of the asshole for good.
As a teenager my mum was once reviewing her list of "man advice", this included such gems as, "don't believe it when men say the cheque is in the mail, they will call, they will get blue balls if they don't have sex and that they don't need a condom.". One of her more memorable pieces of advice regarded men's hygiene, "if you would not put their toes in your mouth, do not out their penis in your vagina. Because the penis will be dirtier and your vagina is more precious than your mouth." It was at this point that I told my mum I was dating another girl. "Oh, well, I guess most of the same rules apply then. You're smart, you'll figure out which ones you need." My Dad sighed and prepared himself for another period of learning from the women in his life. The humour, open mindedness and acceptance from my parents started me off well and I hope to pass it on to my daughter.
My daughter's father showed signs of drug dependence while I was pregnant. I listened politely to his excuse that if I loved him I would help him through his time of need. I replied that I loved myself and this child more than that. If he could not help himself, how the hell did he think that either an unborn child or I could?
My parents raised me with enough self-esteem and strength to know that I could work towards and achieve my own goals, I have followed that up and tried to meet challenges and fears head on. If I don't know how to do something, I am not afraid to learn through research or ask someone to show me how. The only person I can truly rely on in the long term is myself. I feel proud that my daughter does not doubt she can do anything as a girl. Sure , she still wants a pony , but she knows she will have to get a good job to pay for its upkeep. Meanwhile she will continue to practice making barns from her meccano set and asking Santa for a toolkit just like mum's.
Country: Australia
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