Saffy
I recently went on a 'Leadership and Self-Awareness' course, and I discovered that I have many Heartless Bitch qualities that I never realised I had. I discovered that I am capable, or rather, that I am far more capable than many other people. I realised that I have little patience with fools, and people who say foolish things. I found out that I am assertive, and sometimes perhaps too assertive, but that this is OK and actually a good thing. I will not get 'walked all over', I do not allow this.
I realise there is still a way to go, and recognise that shouting people down and talking over them is not acceptable. However little I think of what they are saying, they have a right to speak, and to be heard. I can still correct them afterwards, but at least I haven't belittled them by not listening.
I am not afraid to speak up for myself and my friends and family, and I will speak up for anyone who cannot speak up for themselves (not everyone can be as brave as me, but everyone does deserve to be heard).
Everyone has their own path to follow, and I **choose** my own path. I choose to live my life for the benefit and happiness of me, and I do not believe that this is selfish.
I go out to enjoy myself with my girl friends, I enjoy being the social bee and talking to everyone and anyone as you never know what interesting person you might talk to next. However, I realise that I have no obligation to anyone because of it, I do not have to end the evening having "pulled", I am quite comfortable enough in my own self to take it or leave when it come to men making demands on my time, energy and emotions. To quote the fabulous P!nk "I'm not here for your entertainment".
I look on comments from boyfriends, such as "well, you don't want to put on any more weight", as an opportunity to educate said males that this is not an acceptable thing to say to anyone.
I realise I don't **need** a man, but if I want one, then he must be my **equal**. I do not think it is asking too much.
He must earn and deserve my respect.
He must be knowledgeable, have understanding, and have his own opinions, but must be open-minded enough to allow new opinions.
He must enjoy debate.
He must be emotionally intelligent, display compassion and empathy, and be considerate of others.
He must be driven, but by the right things, competitive, but gracious in loosing.
He must respect himself and think enough of himself to take care of his body and appearance.
He must realise there is always further to go and want to constantly learn and develop.
Country: United Kingdom
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