Margaret
People usually think I'm being ironic when I say that most of the Buddhists I know are Bitches. As I see it, it is a natural reflection of the practice. Compassion as a Buddhist principle is NOT pity; it involves active understanding and the decision not to enable others in the delusions that make them suffer. This sometimes sounds 'mean', to people who expect any Buddhist to be a permanently passive monk who would coddle them and tell them that nothing they do or think is wrong. As a novice practitioner, this decidedly ungentle welcome over the past few years has been more enlightening than any new age hug-circle one might expect.
I'm a generally quiet person and I avoid needless conflict. When push comes to shove, I won't back down, and I won't concede to the taunts of bullies, liars, assholes and manipulative Nice People.
I also have no qualms with rejecting romantic relationships with people I am not interested in or attracted to. This seems like a no-brainer to me, but it's consistently surprising how often I'm expected to just be grateful that someone finds me attractive and 'give' them something (Myself) regardless of my own feelings (or lack thereof) for them. It irritates me to see otherwise strong women give up their own autonomy just to return the favour to a 'nice guy' who confessed a crush.
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