Ina
To me, being a Heartless Bitch is about...
- having self-respect, and a strong enough spine to stand upright on your own -
virtues everyone should take pride in holding right alongside to financial and
emotional independence. Never depend on others to fulfill your needs or support
you. If you fail at first, try harder. If you fail again, try smarter.
- acknowledging that there are still a lot of things that are not right in today's
society and working to do something about it. Feminism is not about wanting to be alike, but demanding to be considered equal and treated accordingly. Until this
is the norm I will continue fighting for change.
I do not want a penis, it's not an asset, and I will never regard it as such.
I've managed just fine in this world without one for 27 years, thankyouverymuch,
and I intend to continue doing just that. Judge me for who I am and my actions,
not my genitalia.
- possessing the freedom to make yourself happy regardless of what others may
think of you, and knowing that you are the only person responsible for your
happiness.
- having a brain, and using it. A lot. It wasn't put there to prevent your
skull from echoing every time you open your mouth. Think of it as a muscle.
If not trained properly and regularly, it will go weak.
- realizing that no personality traits are typically feminine or masculine,
and laughing at those who stereotype. I you feel like labeling me, go
ahead and see if I care. At least then I'll know how narrow your perspective
must be when you have to resort to that instead of thinking on your own.
- loving a partner because he is a wonderful human being who loves you for
who you are, and not because he supports you, not because you think that
without him you're nothing, not because you've fooled yourself into
believing you need to have a man to make your life complete.
- taking control of your life, finding out what you want and then go get it.
- getting over it and moving on when someone does you wrong. Sitting on your
ass whining about how you've been or are being mistreated is not going to
get you anywhere. Someone being an asshole is not your fault. You letting
anyone continue being one in your presence is. Not dealing is accepting,
and I'll be damned if I even considered wasting my time listening to you
wasting yours complaining instead of getting a grip.
- never apologizing for who you are or what you are capable of, but still
have the courage to admit it when you're wrong.
- having opinions and the guts to stand for them. I am who I am, and if
you can't take it, here's a big, fat "fuck you!" in response. I don't need
no one's approval if getting it means I have to conform to their
standards first.
- grabbing opportunities, or create them yourself if they can't be found.
- to learn from past mistakes and not make them over and over and over
again, while blaming others for your choices. If you want to be stuck
in the same old rut, fine, but be at least honest enough to admit that
for whatever reason you don't want to change.
I am a feminist, and believe in personal responsibility, individuality
and equality. I aim straight, stand tall and don't take shit from anyone.
If you want my respect, you have to earn it, as it will never be handed
out on a silver platter. I worked damn hard to accomplish my goals, so
don't you dare babble to me about luck. Luck has nothing to do with it,
my own efforts are what have brought me where I am today. My life and
all its contents is my responsibility as well as my prerogative, and
that's the way I want it to be.
I am proud to be me. A Heartless Bitch, and damn good at it, too.
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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