Dyan
1. Most people seem to be plagued by some kind of victim disease that compels them to spent all their time and energy on things they can't control and complain idly about things they can. They need to learn the fucking difference and proceed accordingly.
2. It's bad enough that a woman can't go to a bar without getting hit on every five minutes; it might be tolerable if men learned to take a hint. "I'm not interested" does not mean "try harder." They give you a choice between putting up with them or making your opinion of them very clear -- and when you choose the latter, they call you a bitch.
3. I am so tired of being bombarded every day by vomit-inducing sappy love songs, previews for romantic comedies, radio commercials for dating services, most advertisements of all kinds and everything else in our screwed up culture that tells us that romantic love is the be-all and end-all of our existence. *I* am the be-all and end-all of my existence, and I don't need someone else to make me happy...
4. ...and the only thing worse than that message are the people who buy into it (and perpetuate it). I don't have a whole lot of friends, and that's a matter of choice, because almost every time I meet someone (male or female), they immediately go off about how heartbroken or lonely they are, usually because they got dumped by someone who treated them like shit from the beginning. Or they complain about how badly their current partner is treating them - and then they accuse me of being heartless when I shrug and say, "Then leave - otherwise, you deserve it for staying."
5. I dye my hair blonde because I like it that way, despite the ridiculous jokes and comments. People who don't take me seriously based on hair color aren't worth my time anyway, and most wise up once they actually talk with me. Besides, I like tearing down stereotypes by simply being who I am: a living, breathing, incredibly intelligent blonde.
6. Despite the claims of my mother and other various unliberated women in my family that I "need a boyfriend" and that I'm "too picky"--I love that second one especially, because none of them are happy in their marriages--I remain single and quite happy (which is perhaps what bothers them so much). I'm too busy going to college, having fun, and making my dreams reality to deal with frivolous pursuits like dating - and besides, I haven't encountered anyone yet who's worth the bother.
7. Someone who IS worth the bother would have to be strong enough to acknowledge his own vulnerability - but more significant and more challenging than that, he'd have to be strong enough to not be intimidated by someone as intelligent and steel-willed and brutally honest as myself. (When I stated these requirements to a friend of mine, she laughed and said that such a guy doesn't exist. She meant it as a warning, but I took it as a compliment.)
8. There is only one thing in this world that pisses me off more than guys who look for arm decorations - women who look pretty, "know their place" and lack threatening qualities like intelligence and personality. That thing is the women who ASPIRE to this position, who bat their eyelashes, wear push-up bras and fetch beer so that they can gain a false sense of self-esteem by dating some macho asshole whom she sees as a status symbol because of his frat, his job, his car or his money.
9. I've had many meaningless--but fun--flings and fuckbuddies and one-night stands, and I guess I've been around some for a woman my age. And while I don't broadcast it, I do refuse to be ashamed, and when the conversation topic turns to sex, I speak just as openly as I do the rest of the time. As a result, people (usually women) often call me a slut, and men often assume that I'll sleep with just anyone, and take my openness as an invitation - until they get slapped in the face. Despite the problems it causes, I will not go along with the hush-hush rules of a society that stigmatizes women for doing the same things men have always done.
10. Several friends have told me that I come off as snobby, sarcastic, rude, cocky or bitchy when people first meet me, and recommended that I "tone it down" at least until new people (usually they're referring to men) get to know me better. But if that's what people think of me when I voice my thoughts and opinions openly and refuse to put up with arrogance or stupidity, then let them run away - I'd say it's a good way to quickly determine if someone is threatened by strength and confidence, or if they actually possess those qualities.
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