Keturah
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I refuse to be just one more victim in a society that is full of them. It irks me to no end when people refuse to own up to their failures by hiding behind "such-and-such syndrome or disorder," instead of being adult enough to say "I was wrong, I dropped the ball." I believe one of the most important ways we progress in life is by learning from our mistakes, and how can you learn from them if you refuse to even admit you've made them.
A certain overly-preachy radio personality (Dr. Laura) often touts "The 3 C's: Character, Courage, and Conscience." Although I tend to find most of her moralizing a little much to take, I can certainly get behind the idea that society could use more of those "C's," along with some others like CONVICTIONS, and realizing the CONSEQUENCES of your CHOICES.
I'm brave enough to own my successes AND my failures. I know how to graciously accept praise AND constructive criticism. At the same time, I do not allow myself to be browbeaten under the guise of "constructive criticism." If you have a suggestion on how something could have been done better, by all means let me know. If you just want to vent your frustrations, work it out at the gym or something. I'm not a punching bag.
I'm also a Heartless Bitch because I'm not ashamed to say that I'm *gasp* JUDGEMENTAL, although I prefer to think of it as discerning. I don't automatically befriend everyone I meet, nor do I automatically accept all behaviors. I CHOOSE my friends based on the qualities and characteristics that I want to be surrounded by. I realize I can't control the behavior of everyone around me, but I can certainly CHOOSE how I react to that behavior, and whether I tolerate it or walk away. I refuse to let the question "How can you be so JUDGEMENTAL" be used as a manipulation tool. Likewise with "You should be more open-minded/accepting." Unfortunately (or from my point of view, fortunately) I have standards, and you really can't call them "standards" if you change them on the whims of others.
I'm not adrift on the sea of life; I'm not a victim. I don't try and force my moral standards on everyone I meet, nor do I compromise my moral standards to avoid offending them. My goal, quite simply, is to live my life, by my rules, surrounded by people whose interests, outlook, experiences, and intellect inspire, enhance, and compliment my own.
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