Susan
I stopped asking why I was being mistreated and started asking why was I
allowing it to happen. To have the relationship I was in, I had silently
agreed to not exist. When I found my voice I knew I had a choice: The
relationship or me. I chose me.
My needs are not any more important than yours, but by God, they are not
any less. I had been trying to get my people to make my needs as
important as their own. I came to understand the problem had been that
MY needs had not been as important to me other's needs had been.
When I took responsibility for the people with whom I surrounded myself
I became a Heartless Bitch to the ones whose behavior I could no longer
accept.
I learned I was responsible for no other person's emotions and no other
person was responsible for my happiness. I instantly became a Heartless
Bitch to the ones I had been trying for years to make happy when I
informed them they would now be responsible for that. Even though I
informed them I would take charge of my own happiness from now on and
they were free of that responsibility, I was now a Heartless Bitch.
I learned my friends and family could not emotionally afford a martyr
for they could never repay me for my life and I could never be satisfied
with what they returned. My best gift to them was to take care of
myself. When I understood I only had time to take care of me, I became a
Heartless Bitch to some of those whom I now gave that responsibility.
I have pulled and scratched and fought my way up this mountain in my
journey to wholeness and I do not intend to lose an inch of ground to
someone else's opinion.
I accept, own and approve of who I am, and if in doing so I am known as
a Heartless Bitch, then I will wear the title with hard won and battle
weary honor.
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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